There's this guy who's asked me out, he's perfect and an old mate which I think is a great bonus, this would be my first major relationship (i'm nearly 18 btw). However in the past i've always prevented telling my parents cos we're not an emotional family (we don't hug etc...) and I didn't really see anything going on with the relationships to warrant all the questions taht they're bound to ask. This one is different and I definitely see a great relationship for the future. I would like to get to form our relationship first before he's introduced to my parents cos I tend to feel very uncomfortable when my parents and friends are together cos they tend to be very nosy.
Would it be unreasonable to maybe not tell them about him until I feel that it's heading somewhere?
Also how would you as a guy feel if your gf turned around and said exactly what i've said?
I know it sounds selfish not including my parents but I don't like the uncomfortable feeling taht I often get with my parents.
2006-08-19 10:11:31 · 15 answers · asked by lou2egi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when I was your age, I didn't let guys come over to my house, so my parents never met them. I told them I was going out with friends. My parents were very immature and made a big deal about me dating and liked to embarass me about it. So I stopped letting guys come to the house to pick me up. Then I went off to college and it was none of their business anymore.
Keep it to yourself until you are ready. It;s your life.
2006-08-19 10:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think there is a difference between dating and seeing boyfriends and relationships. Relationships to me mean more than causal dating, I think it is best to have an input from parents at any level actually. If the relationship is to grow than it is also important that the parents be part of it. There is nothing worse than to be in love with a guy that your parents do not approve of. So introduce him to them and let him go through the test. All of you will be happy that you did.
2006-08-19 10:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wowow! well really suck that you and your family are this way.. mine was kinda the same.. But if you feel it is the time then go for it. If you need to keep it under wraps for a while I think it is ok. You are almost 18 right but not yet.. how old is this guy?? well if he is old well maybe I think maybe you should tell them cause they should know. See what they say.. or wait till you are 18 and then start seeing this guy and don;t worry about what any one says. at that point it is your life. But do listen to what they say and then make an informed dission.
good luck
2006-08-19 10:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by motherlyisis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely include your parents before you get serious with this guy. They will have a different perspective on his character simply by virtue of being different people than you are -- if there are any red flags that you miss, they probably won't (your father especially -- men can easily see the predatory gleam in the eyes of other men). The fact that your family isn't emotionally close doesn't invalidate this. Seek your parents' input before you're too besotted to listen.
2006-08-19 10:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see any reason to tell them until you're comfortable with the relationship first.
If the relationship does lead to a future then you can tell them, but if you're not sure i would keep it to yourself for a little while anyway.
I've always prefered honesty and always thought it would be best, but if it's real uncomfortable for you, then you have to do what you feel is right.
2006-08-19 10:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Val 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong in what your doing I know some parents mean well when they meet their daughter/son new girlfriend/boyfriend that they say things without thinking and sometimes they hurt as a guy it would not bother me if I knew the reason why you were doing this
2006-08-19 10:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keeping secrets from your parents is never a good idea sweetness. Esp at your age. I know it can be a pain in the butt to answer all there questions but it would be in your best interest to keep them in the loop. What happens if he tries something inappropriate ?...what about date rape ? The list can go on and on and on.... I have a 16 year old son and I am always in his business. He gets upset sometimes, but he knows we have his back if he needs us....In short...trust your parents (they have a right to know what there "minor" child is doing ) DO NOT KEEP SECRETS FROM YOUR PARENTS AS LONG AS YOUR A MINOR !!! They love you ya know......
2006-08-19 10:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by Michael H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bible clearly states that you should honor your father and mother,in doing so you will be rewarded in the end.If you cant trust your own parents judgment on things who can you trust.In the good and bad always let your parents know what's up with you, no matter what!
2006-08-19 10:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by lil red 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my husband's parents are the same way to this very day. we never get hugs or told that they love us, so yes you can do what you feel is right to protect your relationship afterall you deserve to be the happy one.
2006-08-19 10:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell your parents that you are dating and leave it at that. just make sure you mention your guy every so often. so, if things do get serious, and you decide to introduce them, it isnt like the guy just came out of no where
2006-08-19 10:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by minnie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋