What can I do to make my friends do the things I want to do, to go to places where I want them to go with me and to agree with me more often? It seems that, although they are good friends, sometimes they just don't want to listen to me, they don't understand me and they don't take my opinions into consideration.
What can I do to improve this situation (I'd like some advices in manipulating them a little)? I'm not a mean person, I just want to be respected more.
2006-08-19 10:10:51 · 25 answers · asked by ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Plan ahead, figure out what you want to do a couple of day ahead in advance, then you be the one who callss everyone to plan everything. works for me
2006-08-19 10:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by Christian B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!! :o) I appreciate how it can be frustrating to feel as though you are not being respected as much as you think you should be - but trying to gain more respect through manipulation isn't the right way to go about it. Manipulation is about getting someone to do something they don't really want to do. Is that what you want from your friends? Do you want them to respect your thoughts and feelings more because you 'tricked' them? Nothing gains the respect of others more than simply being open and honest. IF you let your friends know how you feel [by telling them] chances are they will listen to you. [at least more often than they do now] IF they don't listen - maybe you should find new friends. But keep in mind - the definition of "a friend" isn't "someone who always does what I want them to do". Friendships are about 'give and take'. Are you sure that YOU are 'a giving friend' who listens? Craig!! :o)
2006-08-19 10:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect is something earned. Wanting to manipulate your friends is not really what you want... it seems that you just want to be included more in decisions about what to do or where to go when you are all together. Maybe the way to do this is to take turns on who decides where you go or what you do when you are all together. If you try to manipulate them and they figure out what you are trying to do... you will most likely lose their friendship.... and any respect they have for you at all. If what you really want is to be able to manipulate people, then you need to find new friends who have no opinions and who will follow you and do whatever you want without questions asked.... I don't think that's what you really want.
Just talk to them and see if there is any way that you can all take turns in decisions about what you will do or where you will go. If that doesn't work, then find new friends that will be able to take your feelings into account when deciding those things.
2006-08-19 10:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by WenckeBrat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people figure out you are trying to manipulate them. They won't respect you. If they never want to do what you want to do, ever agree with you then maybe you need a new group of friends.
They can't be your best friends if they don't want to listen, they don't understand or take your opinion into consideration. I am not bashing your friends. They may be great people. But you feel somehow you are getting enough out of the friendships. Talk to them, ask what you are doing that makes you feel they are treating you this way. Be prepared for the answers. They may tell you things you may not want to hear.
2006-08-19 10:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, you won't get much respect out of manipulation. Theres a lot of other things you can do to earn your friends respect. I don't know everything about your situation, but I have a feeling you only voice your opinion once or twice, then give up.
You could voice your opinion, and if they don't listen, don't follow. Or, you could sit down with them and explain how you feel about it. Once they know they are hurting you, they should stop.
If they keep hurting you afterwards, whats the point in staying in friendships that hurt?
Manipulation only lasts for a little while. Eventually, they will figure out that you manipulated them, and that could start quite a war.
2006-08-19 10:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are with a group of people that have different interests outside of your own. Do the things you want to do - without these folks. You never know who you might meet.
Manipulation is no way to go.
2006-08-19 10:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
use the holiday to make new and greater clever pals, think of of it as an threat no longer a detrimental. If those otheres are ur rel pals, we will quickly locate out in the event that they are going to be manipulated via this different individual
2016-09-29 11:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by elidia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy really, hypnotize them. You'll get them quack and bark just as you've always dreamed of.
Friends do not manipulate each other, they try to understand the other's needs and they find some sort of compromise.
2006-08-19 10:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try and manipulate people you will not have any friends left. They like you as you are so go with the flow
2006-08-19 10:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by Daddybear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe getting some new friends?? I dunno, but if you feel manipulating the ones you have is necessary then maybe they're really not the best friends to have......or sack them off and do the things your intrested in on your own - then you may meet new people with similar interests........or ask them what they think you should do, if they are good friends then they'll be able to help you out with your dilema...good luck
2006-08-19 10:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by keriandjelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Manipulate your friends? That says nothing good about you. You have to earn respect, not trick people into it.
2006-08-19 10:17:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋