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I hear that from every guy I know that is married. Is it true or are they just saying this for some kind of sympothy? If it is true why? It doesn't make sence that if you love some one enough to marry them why would you stop having sex with them?

2006-08-19 09:49:16 · 19 answers · asked by misskatalyst 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Scientifically speaking ... I'm afraid you're correct. At least for women... (not for men),

Scientists published reports just this week on the subject.

http://www.news.com.au/story/0,23599,20118998-36398,00.html

It seems to be related to the feelings of security.. But it doesn't happen immediately. It develops over several years.

2006-08-19 09:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 1 0

Ummm ... I've been married for almost 1 year (I'm female) and as far as I know, our sex hasn't slowed down at all. There isn't the same frenetic, rip every button of your shirt off, kind of tension in our sex anymore, but we still enjoy it just as much and do it just as frequently. The frantic nature of sex has shifted to a much more passionate and deep connection. My husband is still grabbing my azz in the grocery store and trying to cop a feel in the car - its playful and fun. He's my best friend and I'm more attracted to him now than I EVER was when we first got together (about 2 1/2 years ago). For us, I don't see our sex life ebbing anytime soon ... and a good thing too!

Maybe some couples slow down because they get comfortable (which isn't a bad thing). They're married and they have an emotional connection with their spouse, so they don't feel the need to constantly reaffirm their physical connection.

Sometimes you just want to hold hands while you fall asleep rather than have sex. Being married gives you the luxury of doing that without feeling like you HAVE to do it every time you're together.

Every couple is different.

2006-08-19 10:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by carpenterjs16 2 · 0 0

If its true it is because before the wedding they do things in order to get what they want (sex), they buy flowers, they spend time, they are sweet and kind, they take her on dates, they are nice after the wedding they figure they are entitled to it and don't bother trying anymore. A womens need to be courted doesn't change though. Plus many people marry while still in the infatuation stage when its all sex, all the time but that doesn't last for anyone, thats why nobody should get married until that has already passed and they still want to be with that person. Guys find it easier to just blame the women than to sit down and consider what their behavior and attitudes might have to do with it. That doesn't get them where they want to be but they do it anyway. That same sexual woman is still in there but he isn't doing anything to bring it out, sex for women is about her brain, men can have a terrible day (relationship wise) and still want sex that night, women don't work that way, if they don't have a good day (and thats what the 'dates' were for) he won't have a good night. They just don't want to put the effort in anymore. The bizarre thing is that they will put in the effort to get it from someone else, which is how affairs happen, but they won't do it for their wives....hmmm go figure.

2006-08-19 10:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1 0

It does go down yes, because you have things like work and kids and a house to take care of and some days, you're just too damn tired to have sex. And sometimes it gets boring, gets to be very monotonous. But what most people don't know how to do is bring the passion back. Marriage is hard work all around; if you and your wife are determined not to let the passion die, then it won't. It's that simple. Ask those guys you know what it is they're doing to get the passion back into their marriages. Chances are they'll tell you nothing. But chances are also that they just don't know *what* to do; sometimes it's a matter of trial and error. And sometimes it's a matter of waiting things out. Our sex life goes up and down, some months we're horny teenagers again and some months we're tired of each other. It's normal.

2006-08-19 09:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0 0

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2016-10-02 07:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

usually happens when the guy isn't as attentive towards the lady of the house. You get what you give in relationships for the most part.

Pick up a dish and start scrubbing or bring home something she'll love, but cost no more than 5bucks. You'd be suprised by how suprised she'll be. She'll get a fuzzy feeling knowing that you were thinking of her.

That's all girls want, they want to know that we're a thought in your brain sometime during the day and that you care.

More guys should show it!!

2006-08-19 12:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

We have been married for 6 years now and sex went from every night at least once, to ho hum, once a week. I would not want it every night any more but I would really like to bring back the passion and don't know how. I try to learn what to do, and take her out on dates, and bring flowers home, and haven't figured out the answer. I would say it is true.

2006-08-19 10:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0 0

we have been married since March of 2003. And yeah there for a while it kinda slowed down but he was working 10pm to 7 am and i was working 11am to 7 pm. so we never saw each other and by the way he was the one tired not me. but he has a different job now we both work the same hours. and sex has picked back up. Every thing is good now. Well i hope you find your answer.

2006-08-19 10:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I realize this is a question for men but as a wife I thought id give you a little bit of information. My husband and I have more sex now that were married. No less than 6 times a week seriously. Were both horny all the time. your wives might not be attracted to you any more. maybe youve gained weight. or act like pricks. hmmm think about it.

2006-08-19 09:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 1 0

I knew a married couple, and the husband never got it anymore. The wife did not want it at all ever, and then he started watching porn, and doing it himself. To me there is point to marry if you can't have a sexual relationship with your partner. That is what you are suppose to wait for when it comes to marriage. By the time they get married there is no more fun, no more excitement.
People should really start to experiment when they get married. Add more thrill to the marriage.

2006-08-19 10:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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