Every married person I work with seems to hate their spouse. I've been married for 2 years and things are going great. Should I be worried that there might be an expiration date on marital bliss?
2006-08-19 09:32:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't look for trouble. Enjoy what you have been blessed with.
2006-08-19 09:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, don't look for trouble. If you have a great marriage, cherish it and make sure yours doesn't end up like the people's you work with. But no, there's no expiration on marital bliss. In fact, the beginning of my marriage started out rather rocky and it's actually gotten better with age (and a bit of hard work). But marriage has its ups and downs, it's just that the only time you hear from people is when it's going rotten. Like with the TV news; all you hear is the bad stuff, very rare to hear the good stuff, so things get blown out of proportion and you never get a true representation of what's going on.
2006-08-19 16:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey look at this this way over 50% end in divorce and there is no information out there on how many unhappy married people stick with a loveless marriage. So I guess the odds of finding the one is on the short side. So if you have a great relationship now the best thing you can do is continue to work on the relationship and do things together. Good luck
2006-08-20 10:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know couples that are still happy after 29 years or more. I also know couples that have been together 30+ years and have hated each other for 20+ of those years.
Some people believe after the honeymoon stage is over than a relationship starts to fall apart. I don't believe that has to be true.
Some believe first love will last them a lifetime when nothing else in life does. You need to find reason to fall in love every day. make time for one another. Do things together that you guys fell in love for in the first place.
Sometimes you do have no choice. someone cheats, illness, finical issues, children, life in general gets in the way. It's hard work to no let these things bring you guys down.
2006-08-19 16:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy do you win the question of the day!
Don't mess with a good thing. Make sure you are on the same page as what the mission of your marriage is before you have children. And it's not just "to be together".
As long as you keep in the same general area of EXPECTATIONS towards each other, there is bliss.
Other than that, it always helps to discover what God wants.
2006-08-19 16:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by get_unlost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No maybe you married the right person for the right reasons and with realistic expectations. If you talk to those people about the relationships they actually had BEFORE the wedding it would be clear to anyone (except them) that they never should have gotten married in the first place, that they didn't discuss life after the wedding and that they didn't really consider what they were getting themselves in to. People tend to marry someone with whom they already have problems mistakenly believing that marriage will 'fix' it, that never happens.
2006-08-19 16:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complacency and comfort are the beginning of the end for marriage. Be mindful, considerate, caring, lustful, friendly and talkative with your wife and there is no reason for the honeymoon to be over any time soon. No matter what happens including children, remember to be the couple first. Lose sight of that and you've entered that complacency mode which gets so many people.
2006-08-19 17:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy that your marrage isn't like all the ones that you hear about that are having trouble.
If you think about it two out of ten marrages end in divorce, if you don't want to be a statistic then just keep working on your marriage and work threw everything together.
There are marriages that work out and people that stay together for a long time.
good luck and congrats on your marriage.
2006-08-19 16:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not married, but I would assume married people start hating each other because they start taking each other for granted. They dont put in the effort of keeping things romantic, or exciting, or whatever. They think that since the goal of dating (attract the opposite sex) is completed, they dont have to do any more work.
2006-08-19 16:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by lostcause8436 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't over look the obvious signs of a potentially frigid partner. If there is no sex before marriage don't expect there to be much afterwards.
In my case there was no sex until 5 years after the marriage. My wife was petrified of sex, we went to psychologists, psychiatrists all to no avail. The doctors told me to get an annulment but I stayed true to her.She was mentally ill then and still is 40 years later.
I had to deliver an ultimatum on our 5th anniversary or I was going back to my high school sweetheart. She finally gave in; we had two children in 4 years and then the sex stopped. I should have left her because now we live together but rarely even talk.........she blames me for all her woes, she is an alcoholic now with many health issues.
I hate her, our kids hate her because she is drunk all of the time.
She threatens suicide when I ask her for a divorce. She has tried unsuccessfully on many occasions to carry out her threats. Till death do us part.........I have been a fool to fall for it over and over again.
2014-03-13 23:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by Gord R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe never,if you treat her well and help out with everything (kids,house,etc...)She won't have much to be unhappy about.Just remember some people like to hear themselves complain.If they are all that unhappy some need to move on or shut up and try to fix the problems.
2006-08-19 17:57:35 · answer #11 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋