we there this girl i meet a few months ago only just one day she messaged me. and now she totally fell for me i dont' know wat to do because i know this is an impossitble relationship it will never work out she lives like in NY and i live in california and plus i don't do those long distance realationships its too complicated.....so wat should i do should i just block her from everything like yahoo im aim msn myspace and etc or should i just tell her stright out??? plz help me...
2006-08-19 09:26:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thats the thing i tired tellin her that it will never work out but she still trying and another thing is y i don't believe in a long distance relationship is becuz i'm only 17 i still have alot of things ahead of me.....
2006-08-19 09:52:24 · update #1
dude i been thought that too well just disapper slowly or something then she'll get the msg
2006-08-19 16:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger there was a girl who had a crush on me and I pretty much blew her off. She was really a nice girl. Years later thoughts about her would haunt me... I found that I regretted the way I treated her. Finally I had to find her. When I did she was already married (to a person I knew), (see I told you she was a nice girl).. Anyway, I apologized at that time and admitted I was a jerk and should have treated her better. You don't want to do what I did.
Be honest with her and tell her the situation as you see it.
If it was me I'd stay in contact with her and send an occasional message to her (like once week). I'd let her know that because of the distance we really can't have a true boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, and we ought to be dating other people as well.
Let her know how things are in your life but don't get romantic in your messages. If you find that her messages are romantic toward you, then respond by saying that she isn't facing reality. Always be a gentleman.
2006-08-19 16:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't do any of the above mentioned. You should be able to tell her in a nice way that it's not going to work. This is also a relationship and you need to know how to communicate with women. And maybe she might turn out to be a good friend to you. Don't always be to quick to shut someone out of your life, because this is a precursor to dating. Are you going to do that to your future girlfriend? Because you just might lose the love of your life being petty! Good Luck
2006-08-19 16:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's interesting, the timing of your question, as I was in a similar situation just recently.
I suggest that you gently tell her the truth; let her know why you don't see a future in the relationship but try to find some way to say something comforting (and truthful too) to her to help her accept what you're telling her. All the best to you.
2006-08-19 16:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to tell her straight out that you aren't interested in a long distance relationship and you will be dating girls from your own area. Then don't answer her calls or messages.
Keep it simple.
2006-08-19 16:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never waist your time trying to figure out how to get rid of somebody. Honesty may seem lame but it does work. She lives in New York. She can't do nothing to you if you tell her that you are really not as into it as she is. Trust me females respect the truth and we can tell when your BSin us. Get some balls and tell the truth!
2006-08-19 16:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by Katora S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mean to her just expalin to her what you are feeling and be honest with her like you were on here. Nothing wrong with having an enail friend but if she doesn't understand and still persists ..then by all means do the one that you suggested. Take care and good luck.
2006-08-19 16:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her the honest truth. it's a really simple thing. try just calling her and explaining the situation... state the fact that you live on opposite coasts, and that you're not ready for such a commitment.
2006-08-19 16:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by theactingtype 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her straight out so she wont get hurt and be all like "y's he ignoring me?" u know? but i totally agree w/ u, i dont like that long distance relationship thing either!
2006-08-19 16:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by Diverse Insanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the great Saint sentence might help u. Just tell her that u make a lot of **** and it really stinks... and i am serious, it works... thnx Saint!
2006-08-19 16:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by Yawar Abbas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her that it will not work, but you are willing to chat with her online. Tell her that being friends is great and you enjoy it, but it will never be anything more.
2006-08-19 16:32:57 · answer #11 · answered by Rpmonarch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋