is my girlfriend pregnant, what do i do if she is?

Question

first off there was no penetration, but we were naked, i cam un her inner thigh very close but not actually on or in her. i wouldnt be worried about it, but shes showing symptoms nausea, sore breasts, headaches and shes 4 days late on her period.

We are planning to get married anyway, but arent engaged yet, (it was going to be a few years), i love her very much, and she feels the same way, she tells me that if she is she wouldnt mind because she thinks she is ready.

finally, we live about an hour apart, im still in college and shes not going to go, i dont have a real job, and i would rather be more financially secure before getting married and then be even more secure and then have children.

what kind of options do we have, and what can i do?

Answer 1

Step up to the plate and play ball son! You just need to be responsible if she is pregnant and if it is yours..If you didnt go in her you might want to make sure its yours...

Answer 2

Sounds like chances are extremely slim. Relax, you don't know anything at all yet and your mind is going nutty with worries. This is probably very likely just a false alarm, but in the future you have got to be a lot more careful or you're going to have a lot of these scary times!

Also, the stress of worrying about it can actually make her late.

My advice is to wait another full week and then do two home pregnancy tests. This is to make sure that there's enough HCG hormone to show up if she is indeed pregnant. If she is, you go to the doctor with her and start prenatal care. If either of you has a decent relationship with family, discuss the situation with them. No, they probably won't be exactly pleased, but if they love you, they'll help you work through your options and support you emotionally.

Even if she is pregnant, you'll deal with it and survive. Life throws you some unexpected curves sometimes but like all things, you roll with them, and sometimes those curves can be the biggest blessings of all. But I would be AMAZINGLY surprised if she is. Learn from this scare and be more careful so you'll be able to breathe easier! The timing would suck right now but you'd both live...however...why chance it!

Answer 3

the first thing to do before you all panic is to see a doctor or have a pregnancy test

if it turns out positive ,congratulations ,and i guess your wedding may have to be put foreward .

although .it is no sin (in many people point of view,not Christians).to have a baby and get married at a later date .

that you both love each other is the only thing that counts,and the baby wont realise that you are not yet married .

or get married in a registry office and have a formal wedding later ,when it may be socially and economically better timed

the second main point is to make sure that the baby will be taken care of as best as possible .and in these cases of a too early pregnancy, whilst you are both still studying ,the parents of both of you can be a big help .
Make sure you are on the best of friendly terms with all of them ,you are going to need them ,they can take turns to care for the baby whilst you are busy studying or working
so in any case be close to them,and include them in your discusions concerning the pregnancy.
good luck.

Answer 4

There is no way that coming on your girlfriend's thigh caused the pregnancy. Had you just pulled out of her before you came? Don't you people pay attention in sex ed? There is such a thing as pre-ejaculant. This is a leak of a small amount of semen occuring after excitation but before ejaculation. It often has the highest concentration of swimmers.

The fact that she is "ready" for this leads me to speculate that a pregnancy may have been planned to bind you to her. Does she resent you going to college and leaving her behind?

I'd suggest that you buy a pregnancy kit, read the directions carefully, and "help" her use it. If it comes out negative, start using condoms at all times. If it comes out positive you have some hard decisions to make.

Answer 5

I would say it's unlikely but you can never rule things out. Even little sperm know where they want to end up and can find there way, I've heard of this happening but don't know if it's true. But in all honesty you may have a bigger dilema then you know because whether your ready or not it's up to your girlfriend to make the final descion. There's keeping the baby, adoption and abortion but either way it's her choice. I understand the financial aspect of what your sayin but no matter what I'd say this is a good oppurtunity to remember to keep it in your pants if you dont want to deal with the OUTCUM Pun intended!

Answer 6

Have her take a test. If she's late, a test will be able to register if its positive now. But, those symptoms are also signs of PMS, so she might just be late...stress can do that. She can go to a doctor or a health department and have a test done too.

Answer 7

First of all, make sure she is pregnant. You can buy a test or go to a clinic for one. If she is, discuss the situation together openly and honestly. You can decide to have an abortion, carry it to term and give it up for adoption, or have and keep it. That pretty much sums up all of your possible options.

Answer 8

If she is pregnant then deal with the situation, take care of the child.

If she is not pregnant...then start using protection to prevent it from happening till you are both ready for a baby. This means both you and her need to be using birth control.

Answer 9

Go get a pregnancy test from a drug store and just find out for sure before you make plans.I rather doubt she would be if there was no penetration.At least from you.

Answer 10

It is probaly nothing to worry about it if there was no penetration then you should be ok. Get a test if your worried, good luck