I am friends with this guy online (been friends for about 8 months - he is a friend of a friend who lives in another city)
we exchanged numbers for texting
and we talk online everyday and also text each other often...
We also get into a lot of arguments, and when i say "a lot", i mean A LOT! He seems to have some kind of paranoia, he picks arguments with everything i say, and then eventually we just make up and act like nothing happened.
Also yesterday night, when we were having a text convo, we argued and i said "goodnight, even though i know you wont sleep now"
And he thought i meant it as in he wont sleep because we had the argument, but in fact, i meant he wont sleep because he usually goes to sleep a lot later...
He keeps saying silly things like that.
He isnt much of a sincere friend, hes more of a sarcastic, cheeky imbecile type friend. I wouldnt want to to lose him as a friend though.
Is this kind of friendship common?
2006-08-19 09:24:48 · 27 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes it is common
2006-08-19 09:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am dating someone like this and we have the same kind of relationships. Dr Phil says communication is 7% talking, 93% body language, action, etc.
It hard when you are just writing each other. He may misunderstand a joke. You both can't see one another actions or tones. Which makes a bit of difference.
some people are just argumentative, confrontation and need to debate every little thing.
But I've learned acting as though nothing happened isn't good, neither is rehashing things over and over again.
Feelings that are buried alive, never really die. Patience is the easiest way to deal with someone. You may have to look at your friendship and decide if the aggravation is worth it.
Whether it's a toxic relationship for you.
2006-08-19 09:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try talking on the phone instead of texting as what you say in a text can be read differently I have this kind of friendship with a guy and we are always apologising for a sentence we tend to use lol at end of something which means laugh out loud so he or i know we're being funny not sarcastic give it a go good luck if he's still the same say goodbye as he's not worth the aggro he's causing you.
2006-08-19 09:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by AARONLEE AND SASHA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, but thats only because you guys neve see each other to have lunch or go out dabcing or any of that. so you gotta make bounrys with him and tell him you don't like to argue like you guys do. mybe even see if one of you guys can take vacation time and tryin see each other in person that helps the bond way more, and it'll stop him from arguing withyou as much because he'll feel more conected to you. but set some rule up to stop the arguements, heres an idea make game that sidetracks the arguement, confidence booster always help change the convesation to stop a forth comming arguement i think this may help you out alot.
2006-08-19 09:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by skott p 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In texting and on-line chat it is often hard to tell the "tone" in which someone is speaking. If you are able to chat on the phone and you still have these arguments, you might consider what it is that makes this person your friend. The only person you have true control over is yourself, if you don't want that kind of drama in your life (who would?), you know what to do.
2006-08-19 09:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Laura G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does your friendship offer you if you fight all the time,he is cheeky, sarcastic and ye live in different cities? I think you are just friends with him because it is nice to be able to talk to someone but maybe you should look for someone you get on with and is compassionate and respectful instead?
2006-08-19 09:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by zzzzzzzz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
friendships come in all shapes and sizes......if the pair of you are happy with the way you are to each other i cant see a problem......your doing no harm and it sounds like you both enjoy this interaction,otherwise you wouldnt be in contact with each other everyday.
i just wonder if this friendship will go any further,if that is what you are hoping for,if after 8 months you still havnt even spoken to each other and so far only write......but good luck to the both of you
2006-08-19 10:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by julie w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this type of friendship is common it is scary. I would not have a friend who wanted to argue all the time. Find another friend is my advice.
Be nice, play nice, and be respectful to your friends. That is the kind of friends I have.
2006-08-19 09:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it is not this is a form of abuse and you need to walk away now before it becomes to late. He is a controll freak and will always be and they like to find the young or timid to do that too. I know I was there so be strong and just walk away and try to forget about him. Friends dont do that to friends
2006-08-19 09:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by fordsrock_2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure it's normal if your an odd person glutton for punishment. Why would anyone normal spend their time (and maybe money) to argue with someone over the phone and internet unless they are enjoying it. Get a life.
2006-08-19 09:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds more like a potential stalker than a friend.
If you were happy enough before you had contact with him, then just get rid and move on - let him be someone else's problem.
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind and put yourself first
2006-08-19 09:33:30 · answer #11 · answered by Sonny Walkman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋