ok, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. he's the most wonderfull boyfriend in the world. he tells me he loves me and that im beautiful every day. several times a day. we've had many talks about my jealousy. and i just cant stop letting it ruin my life. i've been alot better about hiding it, but then it makes me feel awful and want to die. if were watching a movie and a naked girl or girl thats not wearing much comes on, i get mad. if i think i see him glance at another girl in real life or in a magazine or on tv, i get mad. its not fair to him i know. i know its normal to think other people are attractive. i admit that i think other men ((and women)) are attractive. and so did he. and that should be okay but then i still feel sad and sick to my stomach. someone please help me...i just want to be normal and ok with this. my bf doesnt deserve to be treated badly like this. how can i be ok with him thinking other women are attractive? help!
2006-08-19 09:23:15 · 3 answers · asked by urmomma987654 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to seek counseling for your insecurities and feelings of worthlessness. You aren't jealous, you just don't think you measure up. You CAN'T ever measure up to fashion models or movie stars, because what you see isn't real.
Talk to a professional about your low self esteem and see if you can't get a handle on what's making you so insecure. Otherwise, if you can't change your behavior, do the right thing and let your b/f find someone who thinks he's worth the effort.
2006-08-19 09:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ought to comprehend that there is not any particular seem that pulls each and each guy accessible. there is also the nature argument, which i hit upon very perfect certainly. actually have you ever considered your self? i imagine you're way sexier and more desirable perfect that an excellent form of different females accessible. i imagine the conceit problem has plenty to do with the melancholy problem. because once you anticipate from your self to be perfect you danger getting melancholy reason enable's settle for it NOONE is perfect. I face similar issues each from time to time, believe me you ought to commence specializing in your self and continuously have in concepts that there is plenty about different human beings besides seems, that u basically won't be able to see, so there is unquestionably no reason to be jealous. Take each and each of the famous human beings as an party. maximum of them seem perfect, yet their lives are ruined
2016-11-26 02:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by hinnant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend talking to a therapist or counselor. It will take time but you can learn to get over your jealousy (or at least make improvements so it doesn't hurt you so much.)
You can also check out: www.jealousyprevention.com
and I think about.com also has some jealousy tips.
2006-08-22 04:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋