Questions About A Girl At My School?

Question

At our high school, we had a back to school dance last night, and I was going to ask a girl to go to the dance with me, but right before that, I found out that she had a boyfriend. Even though we were not going out, it took me weeks to build up the courage to ask her something like that, and I was really disappointed. Then, when they had a slow dance song, (this may come out as girly, but whatever) I was stuck in the back with mostly people whose boyfriends/ girlfriends never showed up. I also had to watch all of the girls that I like/ used to like dance with their boyfriends, and I felt sort of left out. I'm really shy, not very popular, and I've never had a girlfriend before, but my questions are, how do I get girls to like me or to notice me, how do I find out if they like me, how do I become less shy n more popular, and how do I ask them out or get the courage to? I know its a lot of questions, and you don't have to answer all of them, but any help would be appreciated.

If you're going to say something like jon m, then just SHUT UP AND STOP WASTING MY TIME

Answer 1

First off, relax man! You got plenty of time to date by the sounds of it, but it is smart of you to get your shyness out of the way early before you end up like the 40 Year Old Virgin (which you won't, don't worry). By calming down, girls won't think you're creepy or twitchy, which is good. Besides, most guys feel shy about talking to girls and asking them out.

Anyways, if you want a cure-all for this, there really isn't one. Though the closest thing to it would be confidence. Girls love confidence. If you ask them to dance confidently, they'll be much more responsive than if you hesitate and trip over your words like is natural when your a little shy.

Then, of course, the question is how to get the confidence. Well, that's entirely mental on your part. Just pump yourself up in your head, and walk up to her thinking that she has been waiting for you to ask her to dance all night, even if you know it probably isn't true. Be sure not to act cocky around her, just confident. Besides, if she says no, despite how you may feel, it is not a big deal. Just say "alright, well have a good night" and walk away, still confidently. Don't act too dejected. In a week, she won't even remember you asked her, so no need to be embarassed.

Besides, some girls like it when the shy guy comes out to them. Just have confidence and go for it. The worst that can happen is a no that doesn't mean anything anyways. In other words, the benefits far outweigh the risks, otherwise dances wouldn't happen because no one would ever ask anyone to dance.


EDIT:
Also, the advice Joshua G has above is a really good one, about the eye contact. It'll be tough at first, the first few times are, but you feel pretty good once you do it. That's the best way to show confidence, is making eye contact and waiting until they look away. It may take some practice, but it a trick that should be mastered.

Answer 2

If you want to be noticed by women, here are two simple tricks that will work for the rest of your life. One, walk with you head up, you don't need to look at the floor to walk across the room. Two, Look them in the eye and make them look away first, don't stare, that's a real fine line.
If you want to know if a girl is interested in you for the purposes of dating, simply ask her. Hi and hello are still the best lines to pick up a women.
Courage is something you get after you do what scares you a few times.
Good luck

Answer 3

well girls like stuff in the guy like to be tuff cool huge body so don't be shy don't run after girls make them come 2 u change the way u wear Ur hear { new look } well help go 2 Jim well help try 2 be funny not a clown but funny

Answer 4

u seem like a really nice guy....but the most important thing to remember?? BE YOURSELF!!!! u want girls to like YOU.....if u want girls to notice you...maybe you should show a girl that u like that u r really interested in them...for example...give a girl flowers or write a cute lil note tellin her how u feel...but if ur really shy....try talkin to them when they are alone....but if they turn u down then that's their loss...they're missin out on a great guy!!! my quote..."there's always someone for everyone" but u just gotta find that special person....remember to have a positive attitude and feel confident....good luck!!! :)

Answer 5

well actually even if girls have boyfriends we love it when we know a guy likes us... it makes us feel better about ourselves. if you want to go out with her then ask her out. she might brake up with her boyfriend and go out with you. but i am not sure what type of girl she is. hope you get over your shyness, but it is the guys job to ask the girl out, so if you dont act now then you wont have a chance with her. if you are fat, lose weight.

Answer 6

awwwwwwwwwwwww
thaz so sweet an sad for u =[
well im not so good advicer but
why dunt u fine som other girl that u lik an ask her out
or see if tha girls u lik but already hav a bf
an see if ther bf treating them right if not do somthin bout it

Answer 7

be confident and don't think about the fact that you like her, try to be funny, and don't be afraid to make fun of her. say things that might embarrass her, make her blush... the thing is just don't be shy. don't just go up to her and ask her out, talk to her, you don't have to be alone with her otherwise you might end up with an awkward silence. the most important thing is to be cocky and funny...

Answer 8

be yourself talk to girls as friends and slowly they will star to notice u