i didn,t plan not to have kids it just never happened and now i get people feeling sorry for me!! why
2006-08-19 09:10:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There are women out there you do not feel like having children, that is their right and they should stick to their guns . It is no one's business.
2006-08-19 09:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by antiekmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not wrong, if youv'e never been married, you didn't have to have kids, but you did miss out on so much, you have no idea. I know thet there are a lot for selfish people who CHOOSE not to have children because they want to spend all of their money and time on themselves, but what they didn't realize is that you get more satisfaction from your children, than from any thing else.
I liked Tygirljojo's answer a lot, the part where she said:
"So it didn't happen, you went through life and didn't have any kids. Fine, that's the way life goes - everyone has their path they walk down. And let's say down the road you do decide you want children - you can adopt. Think of all the kids in orphanages, not only here, but around the world, that need loving homes. "
2006-08-19 09:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Princess B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because in our world the majority not the minority of women and meant would like children so it comes to a shock to those who do not understand. They have to understand every ones feeling are personal and very much each unto their own. Everyone thinks their feelings and suggestions are the correct ones until they come up against someone that do not quite fit in with their emotions and feelings, so really the boot is on the other foot, it is them that do not understand and so they start feeling sorry for them. Deep inside you should be feeling sorry for them because you know what you want and is OK about it. Good for you and I have 4 children.
2006-08-19 09:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by Titch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because due to our nature (and society) our bodies tell us to procreate. If someone said to you that you commited genetic suicide, they're an ***. Sorry, but it's true. Who the hell are they to judge someone else's life?
So it didn't happen, you went through life and didn't have any kids. Fine, that's the way life goes - everyone has their path they walk down. And let's say down the road you do decide you want children - you can adopt. Think of all the kids in orphanages, not only here, but around the world, that need loving homes.
2006-08-19 09:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by Tygirljojo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who feels sorry for you for not having children have lost their marbles (or may just be completely envious). Yes, having children is a wonderful life event... but it's also a HUGE and $$EXPENSIVE$$ lifetime commitment. And there's no guarantee that no matter how great of a parent you are, that your kid will turn out ok (meaning not ending up in rehab or prison). Not to mention that even when you raise GREAT kids they can't wait to get out the front door and start living their own lives... maybe you'll get a card for your birthday? So, don't fret. It's no one's business but your own. So go out and enjoy your life!!
2006-08-19 09:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy with-out children,what's the problem?Why would any-one feel sorry for you,unless you wanted children & couldn't have them?Please get on with your life,don't worry about other people.
2006-08-19 09:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I saw that programme too, no you are not wrong if that is your life decision, just that many people leave it too late thinking that when they are ready they will be able to just have children, it does not work like that and the older you are the harder it can become to conceive. Do not feel guilty about your decision your life is your own.
2006-08-19 09:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of folks commit to never having children. No big deal. That's their thing.
Tell those folks who start feeling sorry for you to mind their own business. Or just ignore them and go on about your business. You made your own decisions for your own life they didn't.'
2006-08-19 09:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey at least you haven't had ten kids and are getting every benifit you can like some people. and they are prob just jealous that you can do what you want without having to pay for childcare or worry about getting home in time to look after them!! just you go on enjoying your fab life and tell those women to go and worry about their kids not the ones you don't have!!
2006-08-19 09:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really say how you feel about not having children, only that other people feel sorry for you. You need to ask yourself how you feel about it and if it's OK with you then don't worry.
2006-08-19 09:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋