I wrote about this problem a long time ago but it's still bothering me. 2 years ago my future sister in law and I got into a huge fight about the way she was treating me and my boyfriend. Since then, she has forgiven my boyfriend but never spoke to me or even looked at me. She has moved back into the house for a while and I've forced myself to join into family dinner table conversations and ask her random questions just to get her to talk to me and realize that it's not so bad. I don't even like her either, but I at least try to get along with her. Well, the whole family went out to dinner last night and she asked a question to my boyfriend that he didn't know the answer to, so I answered it for him. She didn't even acknowledge that I was the one who answered it and continued talking like my boyfriend was the one who answered. Sh*t like that pisses me off! Two years later she is still bitter about this. How can I make her want to get along with me again? lol.
2006-08-19 08:05:10 · 6 answers · asked by Jenn 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is always a tough situation. First you may want to look at yourself to really understand your feelings toward her. If you are saying things like "how do I make her get along" you may still have some strong resentment towards her that you need to understand.
If you can get yourself to truly accept her for who she is and not let her tactics of ignoring you get you mad, you will be in a much better situation. Compare how you might respond when she does things like that if it was done by your closest and most dearest friend. You would turn it around and ask if you had done something wrong.
People like this bother me a lot as well and sometimes there is just nothing that can change the situation. Just remember that no one can make you "feel" anything, you are in control of how you respond to situations and the more you rise above her actions towards you, the better you will feel.
2006-08-19 08:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jim G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off, you can't MAKE anyone do anything. Sorry. Second, why does her not liking you bother you so much? My husbands family acts the same way, minus the initial arguement, and the more they see it doesn't bother me, the more uncomfortable they become. I totally understand wanting things to go smoothly at family functions, but some people are beyond trying! They aren't worth your time and energy. Maybe if you start to treat her like she treats you, she will realize what a raging ***** she is being and things will change. I hope things go better for you, because i know how awful it can be. Keep your head up and remember its the man you are in love with and need to treat well, not his $hitty sister! :)
2006-08-19 08:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE her do anything. She has to be self-motivated to want to get along. Just ignore her!... and ask your boyfriend to speak to her... he should say that if she refuses to acknowledge you... he will no longer acknowledge her... and will ignore her conversations with him... Your boyfriend should stand beside you and help you with this problem... as your sister-in-law includes him in the problem. If you both face her... and decide on a united front... then the problem may be resolved. But it must be united when you are with her in a one-to-one setting or together... whenever she acts this way... CALL HER ON IT... BOTH OF YOU!
2006-08-19 08:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Callie Kitty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time as you already know, but just continue to be nice to her, and show her taht you are being decent to her. If it gets to be that much of a problem, then tell her you need space to let yourself cool off, and once you cool off, try it again!
2006-08-19 08:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by myspacewolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. She just does not like you. When I don't like some one, there is nothing they can do to change it. The harder you try, the worse it will get.
2006-08-19 09:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Enough 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be nice to her
2006-08-19 08:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by kierstin b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋