My wife used to wear high heels & sexy boots b4 our son was born. She also loved to have nasty sex and even talked about us starting to find another man to join us in the bedroom. What can I do to get her back to the way she was?
2006-08-19 07:48:41 · 25 answers · asked by Bill Allen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i was that way b 4 i had a kid lol. now that i have one im a freak lol. i like looking sexy. what do they call it MILF moma id like to **** lol. nice. she might be too tired or she wants to set a good example for her son. talk to her about it,. maybe she feels you dont think she herself is sexy so why strive for something thats not there.
2006-08-19 08:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how recently was your son born. Babies are a huge adjustment, they're exhausting and pregnancy isn't exactly good for your figure, maybe she doesn't feel in a sexy mode anymore. Is it because she's in mom mode fussing over the baby all the time? Maybe she's overloaded with responsibilty now, why don't you try hiring someone or doing something free up her time, it's hard to think about...your hair...when your doing 10 things at once.
Whatever you do don't put any pressure on her to act a certain way, that could get stressful and ugly. And why the hell would you want another man in your bedroom anyway!!!!
2006-08-19 07:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could arrange to have a baby sitter for an afternoon maybe even through into the evening and then take her out to a late lunch somewhere and romance her a little bit. Then go rent or buy some porno flicks and bring her home and spend the rest of the evening getting reaquainted. She probably doesn't feel very sexy after having a baby and needs some reassurance that she still turns you on so make her feel like you still are attracted to her and then she might get the hint.
2006-08-19 08:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by flutterby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well motherhood changes women. But since your opinion of your wife is that she is "frumpy", hopefully you have not told her that.Perhaps she is too tired to do things like that after taking care of your son. Help her more with you son and always tell her how beautiful she is to you. My husband tells me every day at least once how beautiful I am to him and it drives me to get in better shape to look even sexier to him. If you are complaining to her about all the things she's not doing than it will only lower her self esteem. You can gently hint that would like to have kinky time, by saying "hey maybe Saterday you and me can have time with each other like we used to?" And get her excited about it by having her buy a sexy lingerie or buying it yourself.If you make her feel sexy she will want to be sexy. You will probably not have the way she used to be,but you can add some spice back into your love life. Hope this helps =)
2006-08-19 08:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about how you feel. She could be exhausted from work and taking care of your son. Tell her how much you enjoyed the way she was before the baby and that you would like to see some more of that. Give her money and let her go shopping alone. Send the baby to grandma's and have a night or weekend just the two of you. Tell her that you want to make one or two nights a month to get all sexy and the night is for the two of you only.
2006-08-19 08:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be tired from taking care of your son and from working if she works. Pitch in as much as you can so her energy can be saved for the bedroom. Take her out and get a baby sitter, then she'll dress up for you. Also becoming a mother can change your views on life, like maybe having another man in bed with you two may not be very exciting anymore. Make sure she knows how special she is to you, you'll see more of a response from that.
2006-08-19 07:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by lees girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont have anymore kids! lol =)
seriously, she is tired from taking care of the baby. give her time, she will start to feel sexy again, but in the mean time, help her out by taking care of your son so she can get some alone time. She needs time to pamper herself with warm baths or time to read for pleasure, or other things she liked to do b4 the baby came. helping her gain her own identity will be a big factor in her feeling sexy again. it is tiring to care for others needs and it leaves little energy for ones own needs to get met. also, some women feel different after having a baby, like they should not be sexual since they are now a mother. talk to her and see if this is an underlying factor in her 'frumpyness'
Try asking a relative to watch the baby and cooking her a romantic dinner (with no expectations of anything other than just cuddling afterwards)
there are many ways in which you can let her know she is very precious to you (not just for sex) she needs to know you love her enough to be her help mate in this part of her life too.
lifting you on eagles wings
lily
2006-08-19 08:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the mall find her a couple of things you would like to see her in(ask for help if needed, she may not be a size 2 or at least not feel like) open it , yes the wallet. Plan a nice weekend gettaway u know wine/champagne nice dinner/shower(you should be extra hot and sexy too)/chocolates, oils toys(if thats what floats her little man in the boat and whatever else you can think of. Find a responsible babysitter... Tell her that she is sexy...
2006-08-19 08:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by KaramelQT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but many women change after having a child. Unfortunately many of them do not feel sexy because they are a "mom" now. Not all women, but several of them do. They know that their bodies have changed and several of them still see their selves as really fat even if they have lost the weight. I would suggest surprising her by taking her to a nice place for dinner, and a romantic movie, give her compliment's on how sexy she looks. One day out of the blue call her from work and say: "Honey, I have a surprise for you, I have arranged for a sitter for the kid(s), and I would like you to get all dressed up as we are going somewhere really nice."
Good Luck!!!
Have a great time!!
2006-08-19 07:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help her to feel sexy compliments will help. If my husband would tell me im sexy then i would dress sexier. but on the other hand she probably thinks since she has a child now she is more then likely busy and running around and on her feet more. She probably wants to feel comfortable. tell her it is ok to dress sexy every once in a while. Just because she has a child doesnt mean she cant feel and look sexy. Well good luck and take care and remember remind her that she is sexy. It is always good to hear trust me. take care.
2006-08-19 08:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut and take her shopping. You pick out the clothes for her, etc...treat her to a day at the mall...then make sure she wears this or that....she will get the idea soon enough. Subtle ways are nice ways. She is all caught up into being a mom...she has forgotten how to have fun and be a great wife. Good luck
2006-08-19 07:57:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋