I'm a 42 yr old female all I seem to do anymore is cry. And I don't know why.?

Question

It just feels like it's the right thing to do. My husband doesn't understand. He thinks I'm going crazy, & that I have too much time on my hands. Which I don't think I do. I have had major back pain since Nov. of 2004, and I'm getting real tired of it.If anything thats whats driving me crazy. I'm realy not going crazy it's just a figure of speech for me. But I just can't take anymore of it, cause I don't go anywhere or do anything cause Iit's uncomfortable to ride in the car, shopping is out of the question, too much walking. Anyway back to the main subject could It be the start of the change of life process. Any suggestions Please

Answer 1

menopause

Answer 2

I have had back pain for nearly 4 years now, when at it's worst I had a MRI done and found out that it was a herniated disc. Have it checked out to start therapy to relieve the pain, that will help the depression you can get when you have to live with continues pain. To relieve both your back pain and depression the key is exercising, even if it's just walking so many minutes per day. Not only will it help you physically but mentally as well, physical activity brings the level of endorphins ( chemicals of the brain that enhances your mood ) I bet you'll see a difference within a week and your husband will too ( men seem to have less understanding about these things then women! )
P.S. If you are pre-menopausal keep exercising the best thing for you & your body!
Best of Luck!

Answer 3

YOU ARE NOT CRAZY and you don't need a therapist unless you want someone to talk to who you won't have to see at Thanksgiving Dinner. Chronic pain is one of the leading causes of depression in this country and treating the pain will help you live your life again.
You should go to the doctor and if that one doesn't treat your pain aggressively, find another. My grandmother lived with chronic arthritis pain for years until we made her get something stronger from the doctor, she lived the rest of her life much more fully. Tell your husband about how disabling the pain is and if he gives you a hard time, tell him he is an insensitive jerk (from me).
As a side note, if you were depressed before the pain, it has been found that depression can cause pain, very real pain, not just psychosomatic pain. Either way, treating the pain will ease the depression and if the depression was first, treating it will ease the pain.
Love and light

Answer 4

I am kind of going through the same thing. I can't work right now because of a health problem and i can't really get out. I seem sad all the time and yes i cry alot. You can ask your Dr. to write you a script for some anti-depressants. If you take them for 30 days that will help with the crying. When i was taking them i could not cry if i wanted to.-lol. I also planted a garden and i mess around with it and i get on the computer alot. Do you go to church? It may help, but i would not suggest sitting on a hard pew-take a fold up chair and bring a pillow to sit on(if you go). I hope you get to feeling better-i know it is aggravating.

Answer 5

1. Get into your physician for a full work up. Be concise, don't ramble, in your problems.

2. Your hormones may be going through drastic changes now, causing mood-swings. Back problems are not fun, and you need to consult someone about what types of activity are appropriate for you so that you do not exacerbate the problem.

3. Your husband is one of those unempathetic people, who cannot understand, nor sympathize, with someone's problem unless he's got it. Tune him out. He's not making an effort to help you. Your physician will.

4. If you are having disc related problems, it can get very involved. So, get in checked out, then have peace of mind.

Answer 6

I am also 42 years old ,and I suffer from post tramatic stress and panic and anxiety disorder .I think you need to see a good therpyist ,first ask your dr .they keep telling me im not going thru the change but I really think I am because I am very mood swings ,and dont sleep well at night and mood changes 100 times a day .so yes I think its possible .But you are for sure depressed no matter what the reasons ,and pain is a big reason mixed with not being able to go and do things ,Please follow your heart on this one .but I know you are depressed please see a dr.im on zoloft and it has helped me alot ,with my depression .yes I also have back pain and I heard the dr.can do a blood test to see if you are going thru change ,everyone is different ,im going to have the blood test done .God bless and hope you feel better .

Answer 7

Yes it could be the start of the change. Do you ever have hot flashes? I am 45, so I'm near your age. Perhaps St. John's wort would help. I seem to have the opposite problem. At this age, I seem to have very little emotion either way. I can do donuts on the interstate and see cars coming at me and feel no emotion. I started having hot flashes at age 37. I take wild yam to prevent them. It works for me and it is also an aphrosdiac.

Answer 8

It seems like you are frustrated because you feel trapped, and your husband's lack of understanding is just making it worse. That's enough of a reason to cry. Try talking to your doctor about the back pain; she might have some suggestions about how to minimize it. If your back pain is leeping you from exercising, the lack of physical activity may also be damaging your mood.

Answer 9

Serious Paula you need to find out what is causing the back pain!

Do you know what may have caused it? I'm not going to try and second guess your husband, but he should be supporting you.

If you can not walk, or ride in a car, you have some serious neurological problems with your back.

Please see a neurologist ASAP.

Answer 10

Hormones will make you crazy. Crying is part of the crazy. Try channeling your pain into exercise, even with the back pain. Suggestions, chiropractor, acupuncture, hypnosis,exercise (any), join a church, change diet eliminating all caffeine, refined sugar and white flour carbs.

Answer 11

You may be starting menopause or perimenopause, which would explain the mood swings. For the back pain, have you tried a heating pad, Ben Gay or those patches you can buy like ThermaCare? A massage may help or soaking in a hot tub. Please see a doctor. I'll pray for you.