how do i tell my mom,dad,friends that i'm bi?

Question

how do i tell my mom and da that im my when im 13 and they hate me?

Answer 1

WHOA! 13 is a little young to know your sexual identity, especially since it's NOT unusual for younger folk (like those under 25 or so!) to be curious and want to explore.

It's extremely difficult to "unsay" something, and if there are family tensions, well, this could trigger one heck of an explosion. Do you really NEED to put a dog into that fight?

More specifically, why do you feel a need to disclose your sexual orientation at this time, at this age? (I'm presuming you're _not_ planning to go to a prom next week or to move in with a same-sex partner next month.)

If, later on, in the course of time (and I'm talking about several years from now), you still have strong suspicions that you are indeed bisexual, consider getting in touch with PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays). It's a national non-profit organization with over 200,000 members and supporters and over 500 affiliates in the United States.

Answer 2

I would tell your parents you want to talk to them about something serious to you, ask them to listen before they answer,then tell them.Sure it's going to be hard, and it may take them time to come around & before they stop making excuses why you "think" you are bi but in the end it will feel much better for you then trying to carry this secret around by yourself.As far as your friends you only need to tell the ones you feel comfortable with for now. if they truly are friends they will accept you for who you are as a person. After that what you do in your own privacy is your business. No one elses. By the way, why do you think your parents hate you? I'm sure they don't deep down but the teen years can be pretty difficult at times and arguments with parents can come easy.
Be strong and remember life is a journey that keeps changing.All the best.

Answer 3

They hate you? Do you have access to a counselor? If you're 13, you are still pretty young and really should confide in a trustworthy adult. Not someone you think hates you, but someone you know cares about you.

I think at 13, it is not all that important that you confess your sexuality right away. It sounds like there are some more important issues at hand, like why do you think your parents hate you?

Slow down and just breathe for a while.

Answer 4

My question is why do you feel they hate you? If this is true and they really do hate you. (Which I find hard to believe.) It might feel that way, so no I am not calling you a liar. But anyways if it is true why do you feel you have to tell them if they don't care about you?
I would just go on with my life the best that I could until I was old enough to get a job and move out.

Answer 5

Just go ahead tell them it doesn't matter so long us you're not smug about it. trust me the last girl I met that was smug about being a bi got put in alternative school for calling me ugly and saying she could get more girl friends than me all the time and I've had 3 in a row before so what does that say, I'm guessing good guys finish last.

Answer 6

You don't...that was simple, wasn't it? Keep your mouth shut tight...you are not in a position to really know what you are, where your life will lead, and you have no idea how your parents would react to this...DO NOT MAKE THIS AN ISSUE! You only stand to lose, and that is a loser's play. Don't tell your friends, they will blab all over school, and you do not need to be bullied for the rest of your HS days...very unpleasant. Again, your parents do not tell you what they do in the bedroom and you should NOT tell them what you would like to do...it is no one's business but yours. KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!

Answer 7

why would you tell them that? thats not something they need to know about! Don't worry about it, you are only 13, when you are older you will know how to tell them if you still feel that you are bi. Don't stress over it, you are only 13

Answer 8

I wouldn't tell them anything about my sexuality. I was feeling bi too when I was 18 because I wanted to have all my girlfriends attention but I didn't really want her sexually because I was fem and so was she. We fell apart as friends. Then I met a man and we were together for 7 years. He was ok but he drank too much and he was much older than me. I started going out to gay bars so I wouldn't be hit up by men because I wanted a safe place to go to without having to be hit upon by men. I didn't want another man, I just wanted him. I danced with a woman who I recognized immediately after we danced as a friendly classmate of mine from junior high school. I left him after the 7 years and she and I have had a wonderul 23 year relationship as partners with many animals as our kids. At first I was confused because I like men too but she was so special that after a few years I just got over it and accepted us and my myself as lesbian. You can't have a permant relationship with someone and play on them. Trust me, because the man I was with tried this and it was so full of jealousy. It never works. Either you chose a man or a woman to be a permant partner with. Whatever you chose, it's your choice. Your parents aren't going to like it that you are gay, or bi. Just keep it to yourself until you have found someone who you want to anounce to the world as your special, meant to be. No parent wants to hear that their liitle one has sexual feelings, and society puts so much pressure on you to be like everyone else!

Answer 9

im 13 2! lol sry randomn. ur relle gonna have to tell them, n if they relle love u then they will accept u.

Answer 10

if they hate you to begin with they probably wouldn't care but i think you should still tell them or it would be best to keep it to yourself cause it will probably add more hatred towards you.