I'm Confused!!!?

Question

I'm married. But i'm having a relationship with 2 women. Ones is my ex & the other a colleague. Both of them no i'm married but neither of them knew abt the others'.
Its all started after 1 yr plus of marriage wen i noticed my wife was getting fatter & fatter. Our love making dropped so fast & by the 2rd year we had never had sex til now. Her fats appearance effects my desire & she is not active anymore. Most people would mistake her as my older sister, some, as my mother. I told her 2 realise that her eating habits is getting worst, & her appearance at times would embarrass me. But she always think tat im selfish &tat im having an affair. My patience, for more than 2 yrs plus, with her accusations made me reach out!!!
I knew theres a few colleagues tat admire me but only 1 that strike my attention. Secretly date 4 abt 1yr now, Ex-gf suddenly contact me. Contacting 4 abt 4 mths now, met once.
I do luv my wife but not sexually attracted to her.
Must I keep the affair wt the 2?

Answer 1

you suck cheating is wrong. break it off with your wife if the sex is that worht it

Answer 2

She got settled and now shes fat. That sucks bro. Well you cant cheat. Its not fair to your wife but you already did so now you have to divorce her. Tell her you cheated and tell her why. She will move out get skinny again. Than you will suddenly realize that you love her again and ask for her back but now that shes hot again and you cheated she wont want anything to do with you. On top of that when you do drop the baggage you will lose your work fling because theres no risk so no attraction. Your ex might date you for a while but than you will remember why the relationship didn't work out in the first place and that relationship will drop off. You will start drinking more making your self look even older and drunk so you will become unattractive. I guess the moral of this story is that you cheated. You are selfish and vane. You cant help it. its the way you are. Good luck.

Answer 3

You know when people get married, you know what the vows say, so I don't need to go there. But if you don't like the appearance of your wife then the both of you need to have a serious talk............then you both can start walking and doing exercise together. In my country it is said by the older members that one hand can't clap it takes two. So therefore you need to work on the situation. And as far as you having two affairs, let me ask you this.............How in the hell of you keep up? That is not healthy for you.

Answer 4

No kidding are you confused. If you are berating your wife she will never lose weight. She will only find more comfort in food. Her eating stems from loneliness. I can see why she is lonely. You are not emotionally available to her. You need to decide what it is you want: Your marriage, or being single. To continue on this path will only cause severe damage to many people and also their families. When people have affairs, they do not realize how many people are really involved, other spouses, or boyfriends, or other girlfriends, children from all parties, it is awful the hurt and pain an affair can cause. Please make a decision and stick to it. What ever you decide good luck. and please remember when you married you did say "For better or Worse" Didn't you?

Answer 5

If you feel that your wife is not the same as before you should really sit down and talk to her and find out whats wrong, she may be going through something that she's afraid to tell you maybe she's depressed and turns to food for comfort. You should stop the other 2 realtionships because if you really love your wife i would doubt that you want to lose her. Maybe you could talk and make changes together for the better of your marriage.

Answer 6

You need to grow up your wife's appearance didn't make you reach out you chose to. How could you say youlove her and do this to her? Love is not based upon physical attraction or sensuality. It seems like you loved the sex not you wife. You might as well break it off and divorce her instead of doing this to her. And you are being selfish if you want your wife to lose weight that's one thingbut cheating on her is another.Stop thinking withthat thing in your pants

Answer 7

since you love your wife, why don't you both go to a marriage counsellor and try to save your marriage. there must be something wrong with your wife or your marriage that she is getting fatter. this might be a plea or a call for help. save your marriage before its too late.

drop the 2. 3 is a crowd anyway.

Answer 8

um dude, if you really do love your wife, you would get help for her to lose weight in order for her to be attracted to you, instead of cheating on your wife, if I were you, I'd tell your wife that you've been sleeping with 2 women behind her back, and I hope she dumps your shallow *** to the curb. That's not how you're supposed to love her. That's just wrong dude.

And btw, the vows your took on your wedding day what does it mean to you? obviously it didn't mean anything to you at all, or you wouldn't have cheated on your wife.

Answer 9

Having an affair with one much less two women is wrong. You need to sit down and have a long talk with your wife. Tell her all that you wrote and see what she says in reply. She maybe very uncomfortable with her weight gain herself. Good luck.

Answer 10

No. Do not continue the affairs. You and your wife needs to work things out. Talk to her. If it's necessary, go to a psychiatrist for help as well. Best of luck!

Answer 11

I'm sorry but your wife deserves a hell of a lot better than you. And maybe she is also doing some hot guys on the side too.

You sound like a man I wouldn't want my worst enemy to be married too.

You are pathetic and your mistresses are as well considering they have no respect for your marriage and obviously you don't either.

Hopefully your wife will dump your a*@ quick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!