Question for married men...?

Question

How do I get the message across to my husband that coming up behind me and grabbing my **** is NOT an effective way to get me in the mood? It makes me want to turn around and slap him. There is an entire body here including hair, skin, and lips. Why-oh-why does he insist on grabbing my *** and **** first?

For the love of God, can some men please tell me how their wives got through to them about this subject!!

Thank you.

I am mostly frustrated, not angry.

Answer 1

I don't think I am the right person to help you with this. But your question is very funny, I have to laugh.

How about you tell him and show him how this can be done.

Good luck.

Answer 2

first of all give him 'the look' domestic violence isn't the answer. Most men have magnetic attractions to these two features above all. If you are married, apparently you still have what he wants and he just can't get enough, Let him know that your body is his for consumption but not at the risk of pain, slapping, squeezing the nips, harsh groping. And if he must irritate you to the point of touching you all the time, be a little more gentle with his approach. Tell him in the most loving of fashions that one day he's gonna catch you in the WRONG mood, and it's going to come back and bite him in the ***, and when it does don't be surprised and CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED. If you use this tactic and it could back-fire on you, at least make it worth your while.

Answer 3

Oh dear...it is the old, "we play, but we play by different rules" thing again. Here is what I strongly suggest. When he is in the kitchen, standin' at the sink, carvin' up the chicken, sneak up behind him and grab is a$$ and ba*ls hard! He will react in one of two ways: 1) he will turn around and expect the f*ck of his life...be prepared to give it to him... or 2) he will scream and ask why you did that! IF he choses option 1) then tell him that you will do that to him IF and ONLY IF he does ....... to you and NEVER does ...... to you. He will finally learn what to do. IF he choses option 2, tell him that is exactly how you feel EVERYTIME he does that to you! He may think it is funny and playful, but you don't.
Now some boundries have been set. To further train your man, I strongly suggest you go to the pet store and buy a book on how to train a puppy! (I AM NOT KIDDING!) Read it, sort it out, and start training the dog to behave himself in the house. Hell, you may even get him to go potty in the toilet instead of the yard before it is over! Worse things have happened. This all may sound funny, but it is very real. Good luck

Answer 4

Why not just accept it as a loving gesture? You may not really care for it, but how often does it occur and for how long. I mean, a few two second touches every week, should not piss you off. He's your husband - would you rather he not touch you at all? Or worse yet, touch someone else.

Face it, he likes your parts and that's a good thing. Why not just let it go and laugh about it. It doesn't make him a bad person. Remember, there are worse things in life. Learn to enjoy the little things.

Answer 5

Hmmm! I can't get away with calling her "Precious"!

But, I do get to touch and feel, hug, and kiss anything I want, almost anytime, while we are in our home, or any private place, cuz, she doesn't want to make the 'natives' get restless!

But, I think I sense a difference here. I do it lovingly, only a couple times each day. like a hug, it is gentle, to sort of reaffirm "I am here to love you". Sometimes, we're distracted, working, busy, and, she lovingly just reaches out and grabs, or touches, me!

Your man seems to do it like "Hey, I am the MAN and the POWER!", and that would p i s s off the pope!

The holding off while in public comes from us both being on Active Duty for over 20 years, and affection is not allowed in Uniform, as it might dis-respect the uniform, and the memory, traditions, of all who died defending our nation.

Decorum is important to a good tradition and culture. Watch the gays on "Gay Day" at Disney, and you KNOW they have no class!
Never will! But, they are only about 3% of all of nature.

So, does your husband want to show some "class"? He needs to learn about the proper way to handle the goods! Or, he can be "gay"!

Answer 6

To me it shows that men have not come very far from their caveman days. Uggg, me man, you woman...if I grab your a&* or your t*%#, its a form of admiration. The only probelm is that most of us women have evolved and we don't like this form of communication any longer. So for you men out there, grabbing our butts is not a form of foreplay, nor is it a sexual turn on. If you like your wife or girlfriends butt, why can't you just tell her? HELLO this is not a hard thing to do called communication with words. IS IT?

Answer 7

I hate to address your problem! Because of how angry you are. But I admit I am a but grabber. I grab her butt because some where in my big and little head I am telling her I like her body.Sounds stupid huh. Oh and it makes her mad to.For some stupid reason I still do it. But now that I see that shes not acting alone on this I may reconsider doing it as often.

Answer 8

Well, maybe he doesn't realize how bad it makes you feel. Our hormones direct us to go right for the "goodies". We can't help it. Instead of getting angry or upset with him, tell him instead what pushes your buttons, what gets you purrrrrring. Then if the dumb a** still doesn't listen, get mad. From what I've seen here and in life, you should be glad he's grabbin you. Direct that energy towards something that will make you both spent and smilin! :)

Answer 9

If this is your biggest complaint, you are lucky. At least he is trying to show some affection, if in a crude way. How would you feel if he stopped, out of lack of interest? What do you want him to grab, your ears??

Answer 10

grab his *** and cock when u wont it. the next time he grabs u slap his face. and tell him u wont loving. i would not grab my wife and think i was going to get sex not a chance i have to tease her in to it. but u must bee hot if he can't keep his hands of you