I believe adultery is wrong. But as of late, the thought of watching my wife with someone well endowed causes a physical reaction. This is new to me. I feel satan put the idea in my head, but I got turned on by it.
2006-08-19 07:26:47 · 15 answers · asked by David J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would never act on this. My wife and I enjoy a wonderful marriage that God has given us. I was just wondering why I would have a reaction to something that I feel is wrong.
2006-08-19 08:18:41 · update #1
YOU CAN'T STOP A BIRD FROM FLYING OVER YOUR HEAD BUT YOU CAN STOP IT FROM BUILDIND A NEST IN YOUR HAIR...
Seriously, do not act on this!
Study God's word and pray about it...
2006-08-19 08:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Steven H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all Satan did not "Put" any thing in your head God or Satan will only compel and it is us who acts and take it from there. Second of all its just a fantasy. Sometimes we can not control our thoughts. They are linked to other things. As in your case you may have a complex about your penis size or may have seen something like this before and it is just now surfacing. As far as feeling like you have sinned well, honestly can't answer that. But what I do know is that temptation is always visual first physical and then actual. Thoughts like these are just your sub conscience telling you that another part of your character is curios about new ideas with your wife. Enjoy fantasy about your wife it healthy and normal. Read the book Song of Solomon. I would definitely pray about it. But don't condemn your self. Just visualize your wife and enjoy the wonderful gift of consecration the the good Lord has blessed us married people with...
2006-08-19 07:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are not the first, and probably won't be the last man to have this particular fantasy. People are always intrigued by what is considered a "no-no" by society standards.
Unfortunately, acting on this kind of fantasy can bring big problems into your relationship, so I would advise your not acting on it.
Just because you are a 'Christian" does not mean that you are not tempted by the same things any other man is. What you have to consider is whether acting of this thought would lower your own self-opinion. Would you be able to respect or forgive yourself.
Just keep it your own little fantasy. Believe it or not, the fantasy is always better than the real thing in the end.
2006-08-19 07:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was Satan with his 16" that was
putting the thoughts in your head because
he wants her. No man just CHILL OUT!!
We are human we have dirty thoughts,
think about it the angels had dirty thoughts too.
If it makes you feel bad then change,
if it doesn't then it's OK to have fantasies.
No one has to know. Christians have
ain't perfect. Look at the what the priests
have done. Look at the middle east,
what they do in the name of God. At
least you haven't molested any kids
or killed any innocent people.
That is the problem with being a
Christian all you people are too
serious, we are here for a reason.
To LIVE, life is too short to waste
it trying to be something we are not.
We are Humans, we are Imperfect,
and we are going to die soon.
So why not make the best of it, we
were put here to enjoy life so ENJOY.
2006-08-19 08:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by DoubleR815 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that again and again. I've had guys who wanted me to do their wives, (and I did), and equally enjoyed the thought of guys doing my girlfriends. It turns me on too, and I been saved since 1972. By the way, I'm 7 1/2 in case you're interested. I have a friend who is 10 1/2 we both live in nc
2006-08-19 08:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by aguyinthewoods 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's that outrageous to fantasize about things like this. Without getting graphic, let's just say my husband has alluded to similiar fantasies. However, as human beings with frontal lobes and a conscience, we can simply choose not to act on all of our fantasies. It's probably an exciting thought to you because it is like the forbidden fruit...you know you would never really want your wife to have intercourse with someone else, but it's kind of fun to think about.
2006-08-19 07:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kiki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont worry.. there is nothing wrong with you..
sounds to me like you just want to try something new..like the idea of seeing your wife with another man, to see what gets her going from an outside point of view
but you dont have to go that far ..try watching some pornography together..act things out see if you want to spice things up.
if thats a little much for you, try some toys you can use on her..and role play to make it seem like she is with someone else.
that might be something that could get you going and open your mind to exploring different things with your wife, the one you love and trust
2006-08-19 07:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by nicoles1504 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Eternal damnation is nothing against a well-hung man.
You want what's best for your wife. That's a very Christian thing to do and nothing to be ashamed of. Perhaps the two of you should find another Christian couple with similar longings and get together for an evening of prayer and foursomes.
2006-08-19 07:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because you are human, and no human is perfect. Give yourself a break. We all have our fantasies no matter who we are or our religion it is perfectly normal to have fantasies of this type. It means you have a sex drive and that you are a normal human being!!!
2006-08-19 07:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by smart_2b_blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your a little insecure about the size of your penis and think a large one will turn her on more. Quit thinking about it and turn her on yourself anyway you can. Ask her for suggestions.
2006-08-19 07:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋