He keep on hurting me? I saw his mobile phone and i saw a girls message to him it was intimate. It was painful to learned that he keep on fooling around until now. I am tired of talking to him about the same old story. Trying to patch things up. then after a while I will found out that he did it again. He keep on telling me he loves me and there's no where he will go but only to me. But why he keeps on hurting me?
2006-08-19 07:24:01 · 10 answers · asked by georghennie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mrs. Nice advises:
Many answers here are correct. It's obvious by your letter that he is a user. However, he couldn't be using you unless you let him.
It appears that each and everytime he does this you have let him ...I know this because you are patching it up each time...and that leads me to believe this has happened numerous times...
I am sure your reasons include hoping it will stop...holding out hope that things will get better is very common.
The real problem here I believe is your wish to be loved...and to have a man who loves you. Perhaps you have seen other happy couples and wanted to be just like them?
If I were you I would start today to make a life outside of this one.
Hold your head high! You are a woman who deserves better!
Sincerely,
Mrs Nice
2006-08-19 07:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs_Nice_Gives_Advice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he knows he can. He knows you have no boundaries or set limits with him. Basically you talk the talk but you're not walking it. He will continue to hurt you until you decide seriously to let him go and do it for good. Forget those old stories that he is a man. A man is also a human and wouldn't want his woman doing this to him. Society has given men to much lead way in this category. Let him go. Change your phone numbers and move on. He is not serious about you.
Sorry to say...but it is best to do you first before he does someone else and hurts you again.
K
2006-08-19 07:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by kaiynasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing and its not going to stop. I thought we were trying to patch things up too but all you're doing is putting yourself through a whole lot of hurt and misery for someone who is going to keep putting you through it. He keeps on because he can--you're letting him--so STOP. If he loved you he wouldn't be with anyone else. Look, if its hard for you to leave him then start thinking of all the bad things he's put you through, the good times and all that is over. Its hard but you can do this and get with someone who will truly love and appreciate you. Good Luck and Hang In There!!!!!
2006-08-19 08:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by good ole girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, he has the best of two worlds.As long as you let him constantly back back to you with his phony promises he will continue hurting you.You deserve a lot better than that.As much as it may hurt you, leave him and find someone that can truly love you for who you are.You deserve happiness too.Be strong and leave now because nothing will change unless you do.All the best.
2006-08-19 07:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by tea cup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hurting you because he's selfish. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Gather some strength and leave him. He obvioulsy just wants to string you along emotionally to keep you around and not because he "loves" you.You deserve better than that! ((hugs))Besides who knows what kind of Sexually transmitted diseases he's picking up. Don't ruin you body for him.
2006-08-19 08:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a jerk. the reason he keeps cheating and running back to you is because you are letting it happen. show him that you are not going to get ran over like that, leave him and find someone who will be with you instead of everyone else.
2006-08-19 07:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he really does not love nor care for you
you need to let him go and you will find
someone that will treat you right
starmoondls@yahoo.com
2006-08-19 07:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by terio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he's an arrogant jerk, and he knows you keep taking him back and forgiving him so why should he stop? He's got his cake and he's eatting it too..............
2006-08-19 07:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by tikitiki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a cheater. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater..............
Time to move on. Find someone who respects you.
2006-08-19 07:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess he is just using you
2006-08-19 07:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by kierstin b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋