How to make children [5 to 15 years]obey their parents.?

Question

Is time -out a desirable form of punishment for small children
No casual answers please.

Answer 1

time out?? .. more like they dont have any other choice... and the way u say it's gonna be is the way its gonna be..

Answer 2

Parents need to remember that kids misbehave because they are testing their boundaries and trying to figure life out. If it is a first time offense they may not be aware that it is wrong (this is mostly at a young age.) That's why it is crucial to give one warning. Then parents should tell the child what the punishment will be. If the offense is repeated, a reasonable punishment should be issued.

Children/teenagers should be able to predict the consequences of their misbehavior. If you get overly upset and threaten to ground them for a year, they will know you won't follow through and won't fear disobeying you. It is important to remain calm and consistent.

As a fifteen year old I can say with some certainty that it is rare for me to disobey my mother, my only parent. She set up rules and punishments when I was younger. Now that I have developed my own moral standards, they are hardly necessary.

I hope some of this helped. It's mostly all my opinion.

Answer 3

Time out is a good tool to use for letting the child think about what they have done. But your children are old enough to understand a lot more. One of the best tools for teaching children to do what you expect of them is Natural and Logical Consequences - meaning the discipline needs to fit the "crime". If a child refuses to pick up their clothes and put them in the laundry basket - then they don't get washed. Your fifteen year old will definitely not want to go to school without clean clothes. It teaches them to be responsible for their own behavior. Another good idea for teaching them to be responsible is to give them their "No" back. Whenever one of my children refuses to do something I ask of them, I tell them "okay", don't say anything more about it. I take a post it note, and put the "NO" on the refrigerator door. The next time they want me to do something for them, I give them the sticky note that says NO - and say remember when you didn't want to do this for me?? They begin to understand that we all have to be responsible to each other. The key is always being consistent. If you let their behavior get by once or twice, they will assume they can always get by with it. Don't cave in, no matter how hard it is. You will begin to see the difference.

Answer 4

Time outs are one form of showing a child there are consequences to bad choices. However that time out should not be sending them to their room if that room is full of fun things to do. Obeying is a strong word that older children do not respond to very well. Setting good examples, and setting and explaining boundaries are necessary as well. Be sure both people parenting are in agreement and are both actively participating in any discipline you try.

Answer 5

My parents lavished love on all us kids and in some mysterious manner , without so-called 'corporal' punishment, instilled in us a deep respect and love that made us ashamed to screw-up. It was as though we were hurting them if we did something wrong. Therefore, we seldom did anything really bad that might have 'hurt' them.
I think I've managed to treat my kids pretty much the same way. Sure , like me and my sibs, they are no angels but ...I imagine they would take a beating from an outsider rather than hurt their parents' feelings. Go figure.

Answer 6

Consistency!!! No matter what form of discipline you choose, you HAVE to be consistent! Children will take advantage of your weaknesses. You also must learn to pick your battles. Too much discipline and the children will become numb to it.

It is important to save some forms of discipline, for extreme situations. I believe in spanking, but if you spank a child for everything, it will not be effective. Time-outs can work, but you must be consistent and you must make those time-outs reasonable. You can't put a 5 year old in time-out for an hour. Ten minutes, yes, and be willing to explain to them why they are going to time-out and reassure them of your love when the ten minutes is up. However, each child responds differently to different forms of discipline. So, choose wisely and be consistent!!

Answer 7

No; based upon the age, I suggest using the old technique of the open hand on the bottom for the younger ones and for the 12-15 year old make them do household chores, i.e. mowing the lawn, cleaning out the garage, no TV, video, IPod, etc.

If the older ones are still behaving, I suggest military school!

Answer 8

sorry I'm old fashion / old school on this very topic, "spare the rod spoil the child". I firmly believe in tapping that *** when the little people forget how to listen. For you naysayers just look at some Dept. of Justice stats for offenders that came from broken homes, single parent households, and latch-key kids vs the homes that had mom and together or divorced parents that both were still in their children's lives!

Answer 9

I have a daughter 12 and we just started a marble rewards jar. She gets marble for every good deed, gesture or chore. When the marble jar is full she gets to pick something that she would like ex: X-Box 360, movies, out to eat, etc... If she misbehaves we take a marble away. So far, this has worked out great for us because we were almost at out wits end. Hope this helps.

Answer 10

No, time outs do not work. The children need to respect and fear you and their potential punishment if they act up.

When I was a kid, my Mother would give us time outs and my Dad would spank us. I never talked back or disrespected my Dad. My Mom's time outs did nothing to instill any amount of fear in me, so I knew I could always do what I wanted with her and get away with it. If I got caught, I'd just have to sit in a corner for awhile. Big deal. My Father on the other hand spanked me when I did something wrong - that DID instill me with fear, but at the same time, I knew he loved me. I just needed to stop being bad and I wouldn't get spanked.

There is nothing wrong with spanking your kids. Nothing.

Answer 11

I say no to time outs. They are great as a displinary tool but should not be the primary tool for discipline. You can spank as long as you leave no marks on their bodies. Take away privaleges as they get towards the age of 12 and up. Restrict computer useage, games, movies, going out with friends, etc. The key is to be consistent in whatever you do as a parent. Whatever one parent does the other one should back them up on it. Hope this helps~!