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yells at me or say I am playing a game etc or says something snide to me so I am learning not to share anything with him therefore he cant be abusive to me.Is this crazy or what???

2006-08-19 06:43:36 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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yep its crazy. your man is selfish and apparently doesn't like dealing with problems, tell him to grow up or ship out.

2006-08-19 06:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 1 0

First of all: "He knows something is wrong...BUT..." Alarms should be going off in everyone's heads! Some women have used this technique since time began, it still does NOT work, men are NOT mind readers...if they ask, "what's wrong," and you say, "Nothing, " He should believe you that nothing is wrong. IF there is something wrong, it is NOT his job to figure out what it is...it is your job to tell him exactly what is wrong AT THAT TIME, not everything along with the kitchen sink type blow out. I suspect you are acting "biotchy" because he is not panting behind you to find out what the problem is....has it dawned on you to just tell him, each time something is wrong, and then to work it out with compromise? You both have let this go to the point that it is probably ridiculous, have turned it into a battle of who is going to change, who is going to crawl, etc. OVER LITTLE THINGS that should have been worked out each little step of the way. You have two choices...either make him listen to just ONE issue, work it out, then let some peace come over the relationship. Later, take up another issue, work it out calmly, and let some peace fall into the relationship, etc.... OR you can keep up at the pace you are going, retreat further and further into a shell that YOU DO NOT LIKE and I can guarantee that he will NOT care if the relationship ends. You have him puzzled, he has no way to turn, and I suspect that you are presenting your opinions in less than the best approach.
HE may be an a$$, but he has not changed since you met him...you knew how to handle him at one time, go back to whatever you did then and start working on this mess. Otherwise, you are going to part enemies...very sad when it could be avoided. Good luck

2006-08-19 14:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Yeah, why would you want to play game if you want to tell him something is wrong or your opinion. Yeah, I don't blame for not say anything to him anymore. If you did he yelled at you. That so sad that now if later want to talk to you about his plm and his opinion just tell him I don't want to know and I learn from you and So, I keep it to my self and Not worth for me to share with you and listen to your plm.

If he said why??? Plain and simple I already told you once. I am not going to repreat that again. thanks

2006-08-19 14:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0 0

Its seems like he thinks his opinion is right, and it does not matter your point of view. Before this gets out of hand, you go talk to a marriage counselor or just a counselor. You need to be able to talk about your feelings, or you will not be able to get past this problem.

2006-08-19 13:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mercury5_7 3 · 0 0

Sounds like a marriage heading for the rocks. If you think it is worth saving, you can try marriage counseling IF HE WILL GO

2006-08-19 13:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

maybe your being an itch in his side, maybe his reactions to you are because of you constantly badgering him or being a certain way all the time., Maybe he is just an a**hole and you 2 should part ways anyhow

2006-08-19 13:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by turtle 2 · 0 0

Yeah definately stupid...get therapy.

2006-08-19 13:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by vbplr_12 3 · 0 0

No, you both need to learn to communicate better.

2006-08-19 14:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

What a nice man

2006-08-19 14:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by Richie 4 · 0 0

The real question is; why are you even wasting time with this jerk? You can do better than him.

2006-08-19 13:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

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