i m doing everything for him and his family. i told him many times that don't do this but he doesnt want to listen anything. he doesnt kiss me on b'day he touches me only when he wants sex. we sleep on the same bed but he doesnt kiss me.i m beautiful and i dont know why he is doing all this he knows that it hurts me? wat should i do?
2006-08-19 06:43:02 · 12 answers · asked by carrie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are luckier than my friend who only have it once a month sometimes it takes two months....THe husband didnt like councelling. Divorce is not permitted in their country so she couldnt leave her husband that easy...One day she met a guy who really liked her, they kept their relationship in secret for fear of being put to jail. The guy adores her so much that she is completely satisfied and inlove....If your husband dont listen to you, try councelling...if he dont agree, leave him if you could...If you cant, then bear with it...
2006-08-19 07:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by bea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry to hear that belive it or not you are doing better than i am my husband is the same in ways it feels like the only time that he wants to touch me is when he wants sex from me he dosen't touch or hold me or hold my hand when we are out together. we have sex abut maybe once a month i feel the same way you do i am 28 hot i think .my husbands 31 we are not old i often wonder why it's like this. it hurts me to i cry alot about it i have bought sexy linger to where and that did it for the nght but i was a month later be for we did anything else he says that he loves me and i believe that. but i worry we have been together for 8 years our love and sex life should be strong i don't want to cheat on him but the thought has crossed my mind i guess the only thing that i can say to you is good luck and that you are not alone
2006-08-19 09:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by aloinnc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have heard stories about that....you might want to start your own investigation.....look through his stuff, find a way to sneak his cell phone away, look at the call logs, he might be cheating on you......if he isn't, he is probably just wierd....but I heard that if guys show that kind of behavior, he is hiding something and you have the right to know what it is. He is putting you through this......you don't have to take it, because you deserve trust, and honesty, and love, so while your investigating, just try to be the best wife for him right now....cook him breakfast in bed, something you know he likes to do, do it with him, if he still isn't happy, it's probably not you,it's his problem. I hope things get better for you, God Bless!!
2006-08-19 06:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by rulerofvenus21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I check other questions and wow you have sister and you seem to have plm with same man???? whoa... so, you have to make the choice to tell him I am ending it and it over. Because this not you was before and you changed so much and It no good for me to keep in marriage to you....
I know how you feel and My wife and I love eachother everyday and she called me at work everyday to tell me she loves me and I told her Love you and blow kiss and women in my office heard that and said wow you are so sweet and cute and caring.. she very lucky to have you .. I was like why?? they said my husband never do that and not really show it.
I was like wow, I learn so much from my dad and mom who are not show love and not want to kiss or anything.. so I found right woman to be with and yes we do have plm and we talk about it and I worked hard to improved myself to do it better so as my wife. wow,
I think you should tell him now and tell him feel like brother and sister thing and no love nothing and I am done.... when you made love to me in bed I felt nothing feel like I met someone on the street just need to earn money.. LOL, he would be so pissed off for saying that and tell him this why?? I say that??? because you won't want to kiss me tell me you love me or hug me or anything only you want to kiss me and f##K me in bed that all.
Then tell him it over done.. maybe he will wake up and said I was so wrong so sorry tell him that he will have to work veyr very hard to proof it.
My wife back then we were BF and GF and we did have fun but I broken up with her and married someone else and didn't work out and took me 5 years to have her back in my life and she took me in and I asked why so long.. to see how serious you really love me and how sorry you are. and you have show it to me and no other guys would do that long.
It true she sure teach me alot and I learn alot and I so lucky to have her back in my life again and it been 9 years.. 2 kids and 3 on the way in march 2007... also first marriage 8 months that is it.
So, think about what I said and If that works you can give me 10 points if that didn't work don't give me 10 points it a try out. It didn't hurt to try smile.
2006-08-19 07:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetheart, sounds like maybe you need to spice things up alittle... Try letting him know you want him.. Make your self real sexy plop down on his lap and give him a lap dance, Next time your in bed lean down and wake it, I mean him up.. that would sure do it for me..To hell with waiting for him to kiss you, hang one on him and dont forget the tongue.. Gotta stop sweetie getting myself all shuck here.. Your friend from Tennessee...ROB
2006-08-19 07:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is something you can do , set him down and in a calm and loving way explain to him how his neglect towards you is hurting and you are trying to reach out to him. suggest counseling or maybe he need to go talk to a professional as to why he is this way. sounds like you've almost done all you can, if you love him help him past it, once you know in your heart it over. well you know at that point what you need to do.
I wish you both good luck and prayer helps as well.
2006-08-19 07:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it is more to you than sex and he better shape up and really soon.And I wouldn't give him long,because if he has any love for you he would treat you decent.There is guys out there that will give you all the love you need.Don't be heart broken that's no life.
2006-08-19 07:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit giving it to him on his terms, touch him, kiss him first if that don't work then y'all got real issues if you cant talk and work them out yourselves then maybe a counselor is in need.
2006-08-19 06:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you feel connected when he touches you,rub a shoulder,squeeze of hand,pat on your back,or running his fingers through your hair,maybe just walking passed you,with a gentle touch..
2006-08-19 07:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by har 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please kindly talk to your husband. I'm sure he'll understand. Show him why he should care as much as you care for him. I suggest both of you should make an appointment so that he receives some counselling as well.
But please don't stop loving him anyway.
2006-08-19 07:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋