I'm a singe 31 year old British Indian muslim, never been married. In our culture we believe in arranged marriages although many young people nowadays are having love marriages.
I have had many proposals in the past but my mother has never liked any of the potential grooms and I have tended to agree with her.
Is anyone else in the same boat as me?
2006-08-19 06:36:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a married 47 year old Christian. I'm sure you have times of lonliness and I feel for you. I have friends that have their times of being lonely but they rely on God. Some people never feel the need to get married, yet others long for a deep relationship. Those wanting to marry should have someone that we can think about through our day, someone who supports us when we need love, someone who gives of themselves for us. It's a wonderful way to live with another person.
I hope you find your match, until then don't give up hope.
Have a great day!
2006-08-19 06:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by flteacherdude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Miz, i sympathise with you, but don't feel like that, you are not alone, but sometimes you and your mother might be expecting too much from your grooms, as long he is educated, has a good heart and trustworthy, that is all you need in your groom, there is no perfect gentlemen out there, i am still looking and i am 40 years old, a muslim and divorced. What do they say he is written in your kismat, and he is out there somewhere, i wish you good luck, sometimes if you can't make up your mind you know there is a namaz you can read it is called Istikaraah namaz which you should do at night and ask god if you should go ahead with your decision, good luck
2006-08-19 06:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an Indian Muslim but I am 36 and have never married, I've not found anyone that I would want to marry to be honest. You are still young, you have plenty of time to find the man you are looking for.
2006-08-19 06:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Gavin T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO, NO I don't agree with you and your mother......If you want to be happy, that person truly love you and you love that guy... Even if your mother and father or anyone not like him at all... keep on dateing him and to get know him and know his back ground.
Looked at me...I am white.. Not muslim or anything.. I told my mom that I am going to married that girl and What my mom said to me????? she told me no not good idea and you going to fast. and I told her she my first and last and she is my soulmate. and she still won't take it and I talk to my sister samething like my mom....
What did I do???? hell with them and I went to court house and married my wife and Guess what I cut off my family's in my life for 9 years now.
What more we will be married for 9 years in Oct 2006.... we have 2 kids and 3rd on the way.. You know Before we got married we talked about a to z and we talked about what if I don't love you what would I need to do? she gave me a great answer and she does with me and samething we talked about everything and before we got married next day we talked about it again and said are we sure about this and we said yes we are sure about this..
We got married on OCT. 31st, 1997 now 9 years OCT. 31st, 2006... Daughter 3, son 2, 3rd child march 2007.
I am so happy that I didn't listen to my mother and sister or anyone... and it been a great bless for me and my family.. if not then I wouldn't be here to type this to tell you disagreement and why.. telling you good ending. I do wish you luck, you should follow your heart and talk about everything with that guy and if no then it not the right person and keep on finding there alot of fish out there like me looking for you too. smiling.
2006-08-19 07:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The groom is marrying you not your mother! Tell her the final choice has to be yours. It is you life, not hers. Surely she will take into consideration your future happiness. Go out and try and find your ideal partner. It will not be easy, but if you don't try you don't get. Good Luck.
2006-08-19 22:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by Finlay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide if it is more important to please your family or yourself. Your Mum will nearly always give good advice - you have agreed with her in the past.
Tell your Mum that you are keen to find a husband and see what your family can do to arrange a meeting, or go and meet someone yourself.
The thing is, you have to make your own mind up what you want.
I do not envy your situation, but I hope you find happiness.
2006-08-19 07:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Richie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I'm not but i have a question is momma gonna marry these guys or you? It she don't have to like them you do it's your opinion that counts not hers.
2006-08-19 06:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to he happily single that unhappily married!
2006-08-19 08:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you answered your own question...you have not met anyone that has said YES he is the one....love will come to you believe and when you find him you will think WOW i'm glad i waited
2006-08-19 10:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by robert h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy your freedom, marriage ain't all its cracked up to be
2006-08-19 07:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by mz.hunnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋