evrubody is forcing me for marriage,what to do?i am persuing my LLM degree,n three months ago i lost my dad,now i'm with my mom.side by side i'm searching for a job,according to elders in the family i should get married as early as possible,i'm 27 year old female.what to do?i'm confused.............
2006-08-19 06:23:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
One size doesn't fit all here. Are you strong enough to stand against your elders? Can you handle the friction that will cause? Can your mother? She really needs your love and support at this time.
Marriage is always difficult, at first, anyway. Can you handle that? I would normally say, be sure you can support yourself before you get married. This is because if a man knows you are financially dependent on him, he might well use you and abuse you, thinking you can't leave. Be careful!
In the end, it is your life and your decision that you will have to live with.
I pray that you have the courage and the wisdom to make the best choice for all concerned.
2006-08-19 11:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by huztuno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One are you engaged to be married, are you dating someone and you are thinking about marriage? There is no reason you can not do both. They can both take place at the same time. Don't get married just to for the sake of getting married. Get married if and only if you are in love and want to make a commitment to the person, and it is in your best interest. Marriage may actually be very beneficial to you while finishing your degree. I know it was for me.
Coming from someone who lost thier dad less than a month ago, do not make any major decisions right now. Give yourself some time to heal. Take a few months to think things through. If you do have a love interest, they will support you and understand. I say this, because you don't want to make desisions from emotions. You want to make decisions from a sound position. Emotions can be pretty fickly and change at any given moment. Make the decision you know is the best for you in the long term. Talk to your mom about it, she understands where your coming from. Do you have siblings to talk to, that helps to.
2006-08-19 07:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
27 us young. families can be so annoying about that stuff. professional woman are getting married older now and the more educated the couple the later they get married. this is b/c in our generation jobs are hard to get and homes are hard to buy. People want to get married when they are financially ready to start a family. I say get your degree. I'm really sorry about your dad, that must be very hard by itself. I would not put a nother emotional strain in your life by getting married now. get your degree, find a job, feel selfseficiant and confident and then get married. If he is the one, he will wait a year or 2. if not, it's better to find out before you marry him! good luck. it sounds like you know what is best for you but you have the peanut gallery not shutting up and confusing you.
2006-08-19 08:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello dear,
plz do not confuse.
I think u should listen to ur family members and get married as early as possible.
Your family persons are taking tension bcoz of ur increasing age.
U should search any good guy for urself and get married, and in the meanwhile u can continue ur education.
Further, if u need a quick job for supporting ur family, u can join a small job like receptionist, telephone operator etc.
But first u should get married.
Wish u happy married life.
Regards,
s_k029_india
2006-08-19 06:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by Karan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No i'm nevertheless going to in all probability goin to lose it before im marryed kus shiz occurs. i became into forced to do it lots of situations yet im no longer likely to grant my virginity to only all people. So what if i'm a virgin nevertheless. It does not advise something i comprehend i'm making the spectacular determination. Im going to attend till ultimately extreme college.
2016-10-02 07:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complete your studies, that is foremost, if you can supliment your income by doing a part time all the more better.. no.2 and lastly be on your feet and be your own judge lest no one can take you for a ride into marriage..... Me too elderly. God bless.
2006-08-19 06:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by No Saint 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married until you're ready to get married. Otherwise, you'll most likely have a very unhappy marriage. Continue to pursue your degree and you'll put yourself in a situation where you have clear choices. No one can live your life except you.
2006-08-19 06:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For heaven's sake! Do what you think is the best thing for you and try not to listen to anyone else unless you ask them what they think. That's easy to say but not that easy to do. Just remember ONLY IF YOU ASK do you listen to what they advise!!!
2006-08-19 06:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by carol k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello friend,i understand ur problem but remeber one thing studies is only thing which is always with u and helps u when ever ur problems and it get u confident. please at any cost complete ur studies..then surely it chages ur life. now its crusial time for u..just face it and win it. ALL THE BEST.
2006-08-19 09:29:30 · answer #9 · answered by chandu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is also the cause ,as elders are worried that (I'm sorry to say) as Ur dad is no more..the responsibility lies on Ur mother so
do what ever she says..never hurt her ...as she is the first sufferer..
2006-08-19 06:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by pressviji 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋