Let's say bondage for example.
2006-08-19 06:01:54 · 8 answers · asked by anitahooker_transvestite 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
A fetish is both. I think you are born with a certain amount of built in attraction for things (like some folks say they were born gay). There are also surrounding factors that, as you grow up, shape and direct the things we find ourselves attracted to (like bondage). The most important thing people should be aware of in regards to fetishes, is that they need to embrace theirs. All too often people fight the thing they love the most, because someone said it was wrong. There is nothing wrong with being gay, there is nothing wrong with loving someone who is overweight, there is nothing wrong with loving redheads, and there is certainly nothing wrong with being into bondage, just as long as no one is being abused. Bondage walks a fine line, because it sometimes involves pain. Two key elements of bondage are consent and respect. If you don't have these and give these, it moves beyond fetish and into criminal behavior.
love who you are and love the fetish!
2006-08-19 06:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by corwinnn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one is a difficult one to tell. Some fetishes go back way into childhood, while others seem to emerge in adulthood.
My guess is that the affinity for fetishes might be part of our genetic make-up. I would venture to get that everyone has that to a certain degree. As one grows up, they either channel that affinity into something that is not perceived as a fetish (say a love of sports) or begin to develop it into a full-blown fetish, all depending on what exposure that one has growing up. This affinity exists in adulthood as well, but it works on a more cognitive level rather than an intuitive one.
This is, of course, just a guess, but I know that some things that I like go back into childhood, while others have emerged in my adulthood. I suppose that the affinity for the ones in adulthood have been in place, they just didn't have an identity before.
2006-08-20 06:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by aquired i assume you mean learned....your not born with it, just something you try and for one reason or another (bondage has a lot of psychological reasons for example-actually all do) and it clicked something in you. submissives can be typically-someone who was abused and is learning to trust a partner or is a boss/etc and constantly ordering people around and needs a change. doms on the other hand could be seen as the worker who never talks back and needs to get out the aggression in a -hopefully- healthy relationship
2006-08-19 13:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by scarlet_bat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most fetishes start when we are being molded by our parents. Sounds strange but true, most of our likes and dislikes came from how we were raised and have a lot to do with how we live our lives today. I am a laid back person in everyday life but in the bedroom I am an animal. I was exposed to sex at an early age and with someone in my family. So I attribute my sexual deviant behavior in the bedroom to my father who taught me things he should not have taught me. Sad but true.
2006-08-19 13:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's something you're born with, but most people repress such things, while others cultivate it and it thus becomes an obsession or fetish. I knew a guy who was fascinated with the feet of females.
2006-08-19 13:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by sheila c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little of both. I have never tried bondage, but it looks like fun.
2006-08-19 13:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by jimbobb1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say its an aquired taste. I think they grow because of how or what you see. In the media, you know.
2006-08-19 13:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by lunaisraven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about the fetish you have of sniffing male public toilet seats ?
2006-08-19 13:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋