Has a past relationship effected you even years after it was over?

Question

Has anyone ever hurt you so bad you can't find a way out of the emotional fall-out? Do you mistrust everyone for the mistakes of a few?

Explain what they did and how it effects you now?

Answer 1

Yes. I hate it too. I logically know I should be able to trust again, but I just can't open up easily. I can open up, but it takes a long time.

I have been rejected and decieved more times than I have had acceptance or polite rejection. ( I am not a good social person, a good speaker, and my looks are not desired)
I am at a big disadvantage.
I attempted to ovecome it a few times but didn't have enough success to continue.
I am confident with the strengths I do have, but I only waste my time trying to ingnite an initial attraction to any female I want.
I had a 2.5 year relationship that I ended. I learned alot from that relationship. And know more of what I need in a relationship.
But meeting people is my downfall. I don't meet enough women to date.

All this has made me a social rebel. I challenge the social norms of Men being the ones to initiate introduction and interest.
Women doing nothing but sitting there in wait. As well as the head of household tradition. I favor a democratic relationship.

Most of all. I am a sincerly nice guy. And that often puts me last and at other's pity. Honesty has created more problems for me than any other personality or physical trait. I "should" learn to shut up. But I yearn for truth in a world that would rather settle for lies. Others try to take advantage of that. Because of this I choose friends very selectively. And I have many that have lasted through years of absence. Our freindship is timeless.

I won't compromise my values for anyone. Winger said it best:

" Like a drifter I was born to walk alone. Travelin down the only road I've ever known".

Answer 2

Yes. An former girlfriend took advantage of me in the worst way. I was working in Iraq, trying to make a good living for us and she used my hard earned money for reasons unbeknownst to me for various things. I lost out 80,000 dollars or so. I am so cautious with my money now, that me and my fiance argue about it because I had been taken advantage for so long I have a hard time trusting people. The past is never the past...it is a part of us no matter how much we try to forget it or move beyond it.

But open communication helps out tremendously!

Answer 3

Absolutely, not even years after it was over, it could be nay time of relationship - friendship or romantic.

For example I had a friend who totally abused my trust and betrayed my confidence. This was about one year ago. Since then I have had a terrible time trusting other girlfriends.

When someone betrays your trust and confidence, your wounds are so deep that it takes time and effort to heal them again.

Great question by the way....

Answer 4

Nope, never has. People can be a trip. As for anyone, they have to prove they're trustworthy by actions. And it's not that people have really done anything to me, I like to sit back and watch them in action when they think I'm not looking. Then I make the decisions as to whether or not I want to get to know them better.

Answer 5

yes I was totaly in love and he lied alot was out till 4am almost every morning, It's been a year since we broke up and I cannot let anyone else get close. i keep everyone at a distance so I won't get hurt again i never want to go through that again.