For example she doesn't think she is pretty even though I tell he everyday. I also buy her gifts all the time. I'm just lost and do not know what to do about this problem. Someone help me.....I don't want to leave her but i don't know how much longer i can take it
2006-08-19 05:55:15 · 15 answers · asked by Joey II 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seem your wife has some self-esteem issues and that part there is not much you can do except continue to show her how much you love her. I know it must be hard for you but if you love her try and stick it out. Talk to her Aout going to seek counseling and go with her. It will help you to with how to deal with it. Talk to her family maybe there somethings they can tell you, for instance maybe she was in a relationship before where someone made her feel this way. continue to do what you are doing you seem like a man with alot of patience, I wish you and her the best
2006-08-19 06:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Robyn D 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her tell her that. That she is beautiful and that you love her very much no matter what she think. That you love her so much it hurts to see her goes through this cycle for whatever reason that you feel helpless that you can't do nothing to help her. Is driving you mad and is hurting you as well that you feel you can't be together anymore. But remember you need to make sure she hears you when you tell her that you love her and that she is still beautiful to U. From the way it sound if she is beautiful she has been abuse when she was younger...it doesn't mean sexually maybe verbal or mentally that she isn't good enough u know something like that. Again REMEMBER SHE NEED TO HEAR U.
2006-08-19 06:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have left out important information: how old is she, is she working, has she had a recent personal loss, a recent weight gain, is this a new behavioral change, etc. Have you talked to your wife about your concerns? Have you sought counseling? I'll be honest, from your single example I do not see how your wife is any different from many women in this world. Is it possible that you are searching for a way to end your marriage?
I have included a couple of sources about depression, which may possibly be what your wife is experiencing. I wish you luck.
2006-08-19 06:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by keshet80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
W-Winers
O-Over Emotional
M-Money Hungrey
A-Angry all the time
E-Envious
N-Naggers
M-Messy
A-A$#-H^#s
E-Egotistic
N-Nonchallant
You see women have more issues than men. Thats why its easier for men to move on in relationships or to brush things off
Good luck. Pray and talk to her. Conversation is the best thing you can do in a relationship talking and telling us doesn't help you have to talk to her about how you feel thats the only way she will know and aknowledge the problem then maybe she will change her ways if she knew about them. See people never try because they dont know and if you dont know you cant try
2006-08-19 06:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by LaToya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be direct and honest. Put the cards on the table and tell her what is the problem. If she does not want a relationship with you, there is not much you can do. If she wants a relationship with you, she will have also to work at it.
2006-08-19 06:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by regis_cabral 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't keep making yourself miserable. Maybe she just wants more attetion from you, but you can only give so much. She probably knows that you love her, but she just has somethings that she doesn't love about herself. If she doesn't think she is pretty, that is something that you cannot change. She must be happy with herself, before she can be happy with anyone else.
2006-08-19 06:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting her some psycological help. Or help from your pastor. But then again shes a woman, and her view about her self are probably permanent I cant stand the way I look either but I dont rag on my husband about it. My looks are my problem not his.
2006-08-19 06:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a self-esteem that you can't "fix". Men, naturally, want to 'fix' any problem that comes along. You can't do it. Learn to listen and let it roll off of your back; she's probably just 'venting" her frustrations. "do you think I'm pretty?" "yes, always." She needs some therapy too.
2006-08-19 06:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF she really loved you she wouldn't hustle you on this
A woman who is like this is most oftenly asking for someting else or someone else
Why would she care if she looks pretty or not if she's marreid to man she loves.. Surely you like her looks to be with her
So i think she's on to something else
2006-08-19 06:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by MyStIcTrE3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough information given for a responsible answer.
2006-08-19 06:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by Enough 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋