Me and my husband is been married for 7 years. I was having this feeling that him and one of my friend is hiding something from me. Recently I found out that he cheated on me with one of my friend. I found out thru cellphone bill. Now we are trying to work things out but it seems that it's not working. I still love him but not as much as before. I am scared that he might cheat on me again or still cheating on me. We have 2 kids and we both don't believe that we need to stay together coz of the kids. I need some advice. Should I stay or should move on????
2006-08-19 05:44:06 · 26 answers · asked by pitchee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you should move on.your trust has been compromised. it's wonderful of you to try and make it work. your a really good woman.but after some dirt has been done, sometimes its time for us to pack up and move on, because there is no longer respect on his end, and it started when he decided to cheat.
start the process by healing yourself away from him, the longer your there the more time he has to try and sway your decision to staying.good luck, i hope everything turns out great for you.
2006-08-19 05:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by 0000000000000000000000 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
U r independent to part ways as long as u don't have kids. The next step on your case stands on two priorities.
1. Bond of kids with him : The trauma of having parents separated is horrible for children. Look, there is no better university than a home. Personality children build is by observing parents. Here i suggest tolerance for some time at least. If your children have some clue of whats happening, they will learn that in life, sacrifice is essential for the sake of kids. Which is true to some extent
2. Cheating your life partner can be forgiven to some extent only. If he thinks that u have compromised as you are weak, then there is no other alternative but to show him that he is wrong. But your step should be meticulous - kids should understand fully why u r dong so
GOOD LUCK
2006-08-19 06:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by spice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Sadly if your just staying for the kids sake no. If that's all his reason for staying with u he will cheat again. If there was no problem and he just cheated on you then his feeling for you are gone. Sorry. You can give your kids a healthy relationship with they parent if you leave now while there is still some good feeling you know what I mean. If you guys can be friend, for the kids sake then I would get a divorce. If you stay with him he claims he love you then you catch him cheating again trust me it wouldn't be a pretty picture, yeah it would be his fault cause he can't control himself, but u choose to stay with him u know what I mean.
2006-08-19 05:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sexy C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are millions of other women he could cheat with but why the hell did he choose your friend? if you can longer believe and trust him...then go cuz the fights will only be a vicious cycle even if he has truly reformed. and besides, you both have decided that you need not stay together for the sake of the kids.
Oh, by the way, STAY BUT ASK HIM TO LEAVE.
2006-08-19 06:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He married you below fake pretences. all and sundry could have a 2nd of weak point - yet its on the subject of the form you handle it afterwards. You had a suitable to understand in the previous you made a dedication as a results of fact this form of factor makes a actual effect as to what you desire to do in terms of your dedication. he knowingly denied you this suitable. A dedication like marriage is meant to be according to integrity, honour, actuality and love. i think of he rendered a number of those important ones invalid. additionally - this different woman and relatively his baby will now additionally be a function of his life to any extent further - and for this reason yours. in case you may stay with that and you experience which you would be able to forgive him then stay with him. in case you may not then you extremely could bypass away. in spite of you do - do no longer fall pregnant to salvage a concern - that way lies ruination. think of on the subject of the full concern - however the ball is genuinely on your courtroom - on the tip of the day - he betrayed you and has no suitable to assume or call for something of you on your determination making. undergo in techniques you're no longer at fault here - so do no longer bypass turning it over on your head asking your self the place you went incorrect - you probably did no longer - he did reliable success which comprise your concern and look once you. oh - and that i'm a guy by utilising the way.
2016-12-17 13:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on because if he cheated once and doesn't seem to want to work it out then, if I were i would leave him and move on. It's not right for him to cheat on you and especially with one of your friends. Your friend shouldn't have done that to you knowing that she was suppose to be your friend. As to your kids they may be better off because they will have a mother who loves them and if he wants to be around a father that loves them too. I hope everything works out ok, and I hope this helps.
2006-08-19 05:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is making you "scared" and you don't feel a need to stay together, by all means drop the cheater and move on, honey. AND make sure you get your child support and documentation that he was cheating when you go to the lawyer.
2006-08-19 05:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once that bond is broken sweetie, there is no getting it back, sorry... It really hurts when someone does that to you, and you'll never be able to trust him again.... and you don't want your kids to think this behavior is ok because it is not.... I divorced for that reason with my first marriage and I have 2 kids also... I was much better off.... you will be too....he'll do it again, especially if you let him get away with it this time..... your a person too, he has seemed to have forgotten that.... Good luck....
2006-08-19 05:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the same happen to me, we'd been together just ova 9yrs. He and my then best buddy got chummy and he went for 4yrs with her. Didn't work out and he came back. Still been along time working things out, once ya trust is smashed takes some gettin back. Nearly 5yrs on we are good now. Time and forgiveness can be a mighty thing and when you share kids together ya gotta make the effort. It worked for us, but for you, you have to figure what you can do yourself, if you need time to see where your heart is and whether you want to risk your emotions again. Up to you. Be strong, give lot's thought and make him prove himself. Feel free to IM me. Hope it works out for you what eva you decide.
2006-08-19 06:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Ms CMP5260 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there is an opportunity, any man you date or are married to is going to cheat. It is up to you what to do next. Your husband will probably cheat again.
2006-08-19 06:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋