No physical intimacy as far as I know. But the husband had a very intense phone (text messaging) relationship with this 17 year old girl for about a month. I found out because our phone records showed text messaging (in and outgoing messages) from this number about 60-70 texts a day. I knew immediately there was something going on. I asked him about what was going on and with whom? he said that it was just his old work buddy. so i did some more investigating, and I found out who it actually was. i asked him straight to his face, is it "(this girls name)"? he denied it still. it took him 4 days to finally tell me what really was going on. (as if i didn't know). should i be worried? i really just feel so pissed off about this.
2006-08-19 05:36:05 · 13 answers · asked by ♥jessica♥♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have confronted the girl (of which i know the girl) and she tried lying to me too. my husband has told her that it is over between the two of them (the 17 year old and him). i was there when he told her. i told the girl to never ever contact me or him again. it has been two days since this all went down. i just am so pissed off today. i just want punch his face in. ALL OF THAT TIME HE SPENT WITH HER, COULD OF BEEN TIME SPENT WITH ME!!
Also in the beginning of this year, he physcially abused me (two times prior as well). I forgave him and moved on. I mean how much crap am I supposed to put up with. then he likes to turn the situation on my, when i am feeling pissed about what he has done, he says stupid things like " it's always about you isn't it?"
2006-08-19 06:32:24 · update #1
i think i would personally rather my significant other having meaningless sex with another woman once, rather than having an intimate ongoing affair without sex.
you have to decide how much $hit you are going to take from this man. how much of your self worth and self esteem will you allow him to destroy?
just because you caught him this time doesn't mean that he hasn't done it before or still doing it ... he will just learn to hide it better
time for some tough decisions on your part i think
2006-08-22 16:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by canadian_beaver_77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 04:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating. They have probably been intimate or there would not be this level of intensity ( 60-70 text messages is obsessive.). To make it worse - she is an underage girl! This shows a real lack of judgement. Run away from this relationship as fast as you can. You cannot have a successful marriage without trust. You obviously cannot trust this man. Once a cheater - always a cheater!
2006-08-19 05:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is cheating & being abusive to you, then why are you taking his crap? If you are really as pissed off as you say that you are, and you don't have anymore trust, & faith in him, then you should get out before anything else happens! He must feel that you are willing to keep putting up with what he does, because you are still with him! Remember, Love is a two way street, not a one way! If you truly love him but he is not giving it back in return you should just get your self out of that situation! Loving and being honest with yourself/kids, ( if you have any) is much more important!!!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-23 02:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went thru pretty much the same thing. be worried that intense is worse than sex i think. its still rough. i dont trust him. he gets pissed. its a cycle but i really love him. mine was with email and i got a keylogger and recorded every single word and had it for evidence before i confronted him. then i made him choose. he chose me but sometimes i think more out of it being the right thing to do than he really loves me so im trying to disconnect from him so i can move on. im tired of hurting every day.
2006-08-19 06:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by starla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether there has been any physical intimacy or not, this text messaging stuff is already habitual. So, there is something going on and he shouldn't be doing it, right? You both need to sort this out or send him packing phone in hand.
2006-08-19 05:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by deedleydee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think you should be worried and maybe you should contact this girl and tell her to back off your husband. Lay it on the line to him tell him the dishonesty about the text messages isn't gonna cut it that the teenager has to go.
2006-08-19 05:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope ur husband is 18 years old talking to a 17 year old girl. He lied to u so u need to watch it before u get hurt
2006-08-19 06:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by sazzybmt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you caught him in a lie. you have proof and he admitted it. so now what?? he needs to make a choice to quit or he is going to lose you, or you will let him be with this girl and stay with him. its messy and going to get messier. resolve it now. he is looking outside his marriage. why? there are other problems or he is not satisfied with his relationship to you. you need to find out his truth without make accusations and name calling and threats. after you get to HIS truth about why he is talking to someone else, then you can move on.
2006-08-19 05:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I you and your husband have trust between each other than there is nothing to worry about. If you love him and he love you let it ride but make sure that stuff don't happen again handle your business
2006-08-19 05:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by nunaberry98 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋