She used to be all over me while we were dating and when we were first living together. We would have sex at least 3-4 times a week and it was great.
Things started slowing down over time and at present, after being together for seven years and married for almost three, I am lucky to get it once a month. I have pretty much given up on trying to initiate sex. She almost always shoots me down or sometimes reluctantly gives me a hand if you know what I mean.
I am getting very frustrated, What am I doing wrong or not doing? Is there something wrong with her? Is this fair to me?
2006-08-19 05:36:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it may been great when you were dating, becuase you were getting what you wanted out of the sex. maybe she wasn't. don't let your ego get in the way. maybe she is not getting satisfied. she might be reluctant to tell you because you can't handle the fact that she needs to be pleased differently then you think she does. one sure fire gauranty is to try to please her without you getting to 'finish'. do that a few times and she will start to see that you care about her pleasure as well. it could also be she is tired mentally, physicall, emotionally. women need to feel an emotional connection to a man before they enjoy having sex. this will work too: do everything you can and expect nothing in return. take care of the kids, go to work, make dinner, do the dishes, laundry, clean the house. i don't just mean for one day. i mean do more than you do. maybe not all of it everyday, but some more each day. show her that what she does has validity and that you are willing to help. when a woman stops having sex its because the man is not fullfilling the feeling of equality in the marriage, emotional, spiritual, physical.
2006-08-19 05:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its seem making luv with ya does not fullfill her much. Think of a best time to talk her, ask her what happened to the KAMA SUTRA that both of ya had experienced. Is there anything missing part, fantasy and stance that she wants to add-on. Who knows that she want 2b in control, at times i.e. Make her feel wanted and not jus ya wanting it.
Worst case scenario = Play hard to get. Dun ask her abt sex anymore ( i meant not more than .....hey you no when). Build ya reputation as a man. Put on some muscle, particularly your abs and pegs. Look sexier. If she still luv ya, she will notice ya sex desire and new looks. If not....then so long man, its seem her KAMA SUTRA has fallen to another dimension.
2006-08-19 06:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by Akin Woodlands 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships slow down the frequency of the love making.
but, she might also be suffering some depression, and you need to find her help, or just give up. If you call her and an man answers, then that would be one answer!
But, seriously, she may need to feel that she is being romanced.
Need to keep up the courtship!
2006-08-19 06:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with one another. get everything out in the open.
Usually women need more than just the physical and if they are only getting physical then it gets old after a while.
but you will only know if the two of you talk to one another and deal with any issues the two of you may have.
good luck
2006-08-19 05:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband have decided to have sex 4 times a week whether or not 1 of us is up to it .And by time we are done we are both glad we did it .Try giving her a rub all over her body to get her in the mood .
2006-08-19 05:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does not seem very fair. You should ask her to participate in sex with you more often. You might investigate some herbs that raise libido. Maybe she wants some form of birth control. Do you both want children currently?
2006-08-19 05:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by John B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just trying to read your mind from the question you've ask; nevertheless, that i could be wrong...
In my opinion, i guess that you're into showing your EGOistic behaviour without knowing it your self, and had probably making her feel low or down that resulted her to start avoiding or having less attraction towards you.. also may be having less attention from you...
Anyway just cut the story short... please change you style and approach, it might help to change her ways and probably creating some demand from you.. might get it started...
otherwise, i would sgueest getting some SPANISH FLY.. will definitely help you out..
2006-08-19 20:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She sounds tired or stressed. Check out things in her life that she does, you may find clues there. In my marriage that happened too but that was due to obtaining education and work stress. You also need to look at yourself. Are you making her happy? Ask her, talk to her, don't be demanding.
2006-08-19 05:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That;s a serious problem that needs immediate attention before matters get worst...its not fair to you...but you've got to give her a chance by convincing her to try councelling...
2006-08-19 05:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by bea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you call her and ask her what the problem is. Ask her why she has been behaving strangely, what wrong you have done to deserve that. While asking the question, don't be hash to her just ask her quitely and normally so that she can fine it easy to response.
2006-08-19 05:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by Goldah N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋