motherly love eh!?

Question

why does my mam/mum/mom, say i'm ugly, i know it's not any "heat of the moment" bullsh*t, coz this is the 25th or 30th time.

i know that i am though, i would willingly slice my face up, just so as i would have a decent reason to walk round wearing a mask.

but surely she, of all people, should love me for who i am as well as how i look, no matter what

Answer 1

And when did she become the worlds top judge of who is and isnt beautiful or handsome. If you look like your father and she is mad at him she might just be saying that because you remind her of him and not because she really believes that you are ugly. I personally dont find anyone ugly except for the way one might be acting. And your mom is the only ugly one if you ask me for acting ugly and telling you things like that. What I find to be beautiful someone else may find horrible and vica versa. Havent you ever noticed anyone that is super special and nice and even tho they are not miss or mr america they still seem to be beautiful or handsome? Unless everyone you run into on the street screams and runs away to hide when they see you there is no reason for a mask. Did you know that you cant even judge yourself what you look like because you cant see yourself with someone elses eyes. All you can do is see a reflection in a mirror of a reflection of light from your person. Put it this way you could have major pimples and not so perfect features and it still wouldnt make you ugly unless you were an ugly nasty person from the inside. I have a friend who was very cute and a big flirt with the girls and one day while he was working him and another employee had to go and relight an apartment complex boiler. To make a long story short the boiler blew up and they both caught on fire. They were able to make it outside and put the flames out then pass out. My friend lived and the other guy died right there. They kept my friend in a medically induced coma for 2 months so he wouldnt feel so much pain and two so he wouldnt freak out when he realized what he now looked like. My friend was 24 when this happened. At first he was in a wheel chair and they told him he probably wouldnt walk again . He said bull sh it and started lifting weights and soon was up walking with a cane. He was burned over 90 % of his body. When I saw him after he had gotten home and was up walking in less than 8 months since it had happened I thought I would find him very depressed. He had lost all his hair and most of his nose but he wasnt wearing a mask and did his best to smile when he saw me. What he looked like on the outside didnt change who he was on the inside and 3 months after that he was back at the clubs picking up on girls.. SOme girls wouldnt talk to him or would brush him off but there were plenty of girls who saw him who he is and less than 2 years after this accident he is now married to a very nice looking girl and has a baby on the way. If people judge you by the way you look on the outside they are the only ones that are ugly . Who you are is not the outside but the inside. One more thing to think about . Do you pick and choose your friends by the way they look or the way they act or the way they are with you? As for your mother next time she tells you that let it go in one ear and out the other and tell her " that is only your opinion and the last time I recall no ones ever handed you the crown for Miss American. " Remember you cant be ugly unless it comes from inside. She could be telling you that too because she doesnt want you to grow up and leave her. Sounds kinda lame but I was just remember ing my x , he used to always tell me bad things so I would feel bad about myself and wouldnt be so apt to leave him. Then one day I woke up and realized he was full of it and did leave his sorry but t . No matter what the reason is she is definitly not right in the head for telling you stuff like that. Maybe she really has some mental issues going on inside her head. Talk to her, it could be her way of asking for help. You never know.

Answer 2

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. You may think you are ugly because it's been planted in you for so long. Start telling yourself "I look good" and that will boost your self esteem. As for mom, tell her "I came from you!" I'm very sure if you were ugly, you got it from her.

Answer 3

yeah, you might want to talk to a therapist, but it sounds like it is your mom who has the problem. It could be jealousy, or that she thinks she is being helpful. She sounds a lot like my mom, whom at 32 years of age, I no longer talk to.

You should try counseling because it sounds like her disapproval of you is pushing you into depression, and you might consider inviting her to a few sessions to get to the bottom of it. She might not even know she is saying these things to you and how it is effecting you.

Answer 4

wow she is not a very sweet mom. she may be wanting you to have a serious attachment to her. by making you feel so unnattractive you might get a complex and become so insecure you will never leave her. i think you should not listen to her and get a second opinion! post a pic.

Answer 5

Your mother has no right telling you that and it's horrible that she did. Look at yourself in the mirror. You're not ugly. Don't listen to her.

Answer 6

That's not saying much for your mom, as she is the one that had you. So, you are partly her make up, so I guess she thinks of herself as ugly too.

Answer 7

yes.she should love you no matter what.since you dont have her to help build your self esteem, and self confidence, you should try building it on your own. you shouldnt let anyone talk badly about you.even if she is your own mother.seek counseling,together or seperate.

Answer 8

I know she loves you.....unconditionally. But maybe she just does not realize that by telling you you are ugly she is hurting your feelings. Tell her!

Answer 9

why do you listen?

I do not understand that someone could be so sick in that way!

Please get her some help?! Cause, things must seem pretty bad for her!

Answer 10

Just because she says you're ugly, she still loves you. She's just being honest.