This is a tough one. I agree with you even if you did believe in spanking the slapping of the hand is a big no-no, (no pun intended). The bones in the hand are so small and fragile that the slap of an adult can do some real damage. So good for you for not falling into this all too easy trap. About the only thing you can do is continue to say NO in a firm voice and make sure your face is saying NO as well and take away what ever it is he is getting into. Sometimes we have a tendency to smile at whatever our little ones do and that sends the wrong message. Until he gets old enough to reason with there is little we can do other than time out, a high chair or playpen is the best place for this at this age. Good Luck and don't forget to journal all these annoying times, as well as the fun times in your baby book because trust me these are times they ask about when they grow up and make some of the most fun family stories.
2006-08-19 05:15:09
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answered by G-Mommy 3
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Say no in a deeper firm voice. Then pick up your child and move him to another area. If he crawls back, do it again. If he keeps going back, take him to another room and play with him there. If its a daily battle, remove the item. This is the beginning of discipline. You need to be firm and consistent now. That doesn't mean yelling or spanking. At this age, distracting them with a different toy or room can work better than any other method. Just make sure that your reaction is the same the first, third, 20th,. and 100th time. That is how your child learns to respect your rules. I know he's a baby now, but babies grow.
2006-08-19 05:12:27
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answered by Velken 7
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I don't understand the spanking issue, I just don't get it. Spanking is not beating, it is not breaking their spirit. At the age of 8 months my children already knew the word NO. My granddaughter at that age knows. We have swatted her diaper. It doesn't hurt her but makes a loud sound and alerts her. She remembers that the next time she reaches for something on the shelf. My children and I are very close and they do not feel they were abused by getting spankings when they were little. When they got older we did time outs and reward stickers, too. The punishment should fit the crime. It is only bad when used and abused. If you spank for everything, do not explain what they did wrong to them, slap their faces, or leave welts, bruises etc, then you are being abusive.
2006-08-19 05:17:30
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answered by wantoxcape 2
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At 8 months old you should say "no," in a firm voice and with a stern expression, and then you should move him to something else. You can even smile at him when you begin the next activity. And don't forget, it is his job to explore and learn how things work, so don't have to many untouchable items in his reach.
By the way, I read your other ? about chubby babies. I had a fat one and a skinny one. My chubby daughter was 30 pounds at 10 months old. She is now 6 (almost) and weighs 74 pounds, which is definitely overweight. I buy her size 10/12 clothes and have to hem them. She gets tired when running wiht other kids and needs to take breaks. When we go to the park she chooses to sift sand rather than participate in more active paly. My son however, is 4 (just turned) and weighs 31 pounds. He wears 5 slim and they hang off of him. He is pure lean muscle. He can cross monkey bars, do back walk-overs and can walk on his hands. They both eat the same diet and are exposed to the same level of activity. I get funny looks for the fat one and funny looks for the skinny one. The doctor has offered me the services of a nutritionist for each child, seperately. The nutritionist came and said I wsa doing everything right. Sometimes you just get what you get. I was told not to push food on the skinny one or to restrict food from the fat one. I just make sure they both get excersice and I try to offer them helathy foods. Good luck, because it is easier to shop for a skinny one than for a chunky one.
2006-08-19 19:13:11
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answered by theinfalliblenena 4
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kids are tricky, and when your already correctly using a firm voice then that usually does it as they can recognise the difference from your happy voice. But sometimes it doesn't )all kids are diff) try when you say NO, walk away (depending on the situation) as your wee one will tend to want to see your reaction. Hope this helps xxxxxxxxx
2006-08-19 05:15:01
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answered by amber1234 3
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Try finding another word. I don't have kids on my own, but with my niece it worked miracles just when I said "phuuiiiii" ;-) Just a new word he's not used to and also, try changing the timber of your voice a bit so he starts associating it with his wrong doings.
2006-08-19 05:17:49
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answered by Anonymous
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consistency is the rule!! Must stand firm and state the punishment clearly if he chooses to disobey. Sometimes it's essential to explained the "nos"....
2006-08-19 15:17:03
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answered by callietanhf 2
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i would use the good old (time out) while telling him no.. sit him down and not letting him get up... just sit him down 2 to 3 min's till he gets a lil older...
2006-08-19 05:13:21
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answered by victoriasan03 1
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oh say something else like bad or plzzzzzzzzz or slap him gently on his leg or hand.
2006-08-19 05:21:04
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answered by sasa 4
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