To balance everything out my man took on a second job. I never felt so lonely in my life. He goes in in the morning and i don't see him until almost twelve at night where he comes home and goes straight to sleep anyways. What can i do to deal with this lack of attention? His days off are for him to catch up on his errands.
2006-08-19 05:00:22 · 13 answers · asked by whos_tat_grl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can understand where your coming from, but the lack of attention isn't a lack, some things have to be sacraficed in order for you to continue to live comfortably as you have been. Being alone isn't fun, but until you can go back to work....... if you choose to.... it is necessary. Try to rest and be supportive of his efforts to be a bread winner for two, if you think your lonely now, wait until the baby comes, then you be lonly and exhausted.
2006-08-19 05:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are perfectly entitled to your own feelings. No one can or should tell you how you should feel about anything. It is very common for women to feel like that. Part of it for you right now is all of those pregnancy hormones. Give yourself time to have the baby and get settled with being a new mother. Then you will need to decide if being a full time mom is enough for you or not. Some women really need to be working while others can be content being at home. I have done both and both things have their plus and minus about them. In all things seek balance. You can join a mom/baby group after the baby is born and that will get you out of the house more. BIG HUGS to you and GOOD LUCK with things. Just give yourself some time......you will get past this in good time.
2006-08-19 05:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by ParaUnNormal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a stunning individual you're! keep in mind, you're 8 months pregnant in spite of each and every thing! i've got confidence so lazy after having examine this- i don't have a activity and that i'm additionally 8 months pregnant! i will slightly do the housekeeping daily and finally end up taking naps somewhat. If it is getting you down, communicate on your hubby approximately it. i'm beneficial that he does not strategies doing the extra housekeeping. being pregnant is amazingly draining for all people.. moreso while you're working complete-time. He would even like doing the housekeeping and helping you out! Who is time-honored with? are not getting your self down approximately this. you're doing o.k. because it is. best of luck xx
2016-10-02 07:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is deja vu...I gave birth almost 3 weeks ago and my bf has a second job(which he is at now)...my best advice is to take the opportunity to spend time with him as often as u can ...even if it's a few moments here and there....my bf works only days so I always have afternoons and nights to spend with him...we sometimes have to sacrifice the time because of the children...homework...dinner etc....don't feel so bad...I go back to work on Sept 11 which is soon...just enjoy the free time and prepare for the baby and good luck!
2006-08-19 05:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the family (u and him) agrees on picking up the 2nd job, that will boost the family income, then u cant have it all. Although, he can mend that a little, knowing he really loves his wife and wanted to be there for her(for better for worse)
if the above is in the reverse, then, politely let him know that u matter to him as the job, to drop the idea of picking up the 2nd job
ok?
2006-08-19 05:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by Tunde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's working two jobs so you can stay home and rest. Complaining about a lack of attention seems a bit selfish in my opinion. You might do better to ask yourself if there's anything you can do to help him relax a bit more when he is home.
2006-08-19 05:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by nyboxers73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you two can spend some more time together and you know he is tired, but you are lonely. It will be ok, and soon you will have your little one right there by you. Best of luck and I hope everything goes well for you.
2006-08-19 05:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would'nt complain if i was u take this time to get ready for the birth of ur child . believe me u won't be complaining in a month that man of ur's should be awarded belive me there's not o many of them around anymore u should feel greatful not acting like a child. and good luck with the birth of ur new born u'll be a family together soon. he will be there for u.
2006-08-19 05:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by bgreneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank your lucky stars that you have a man who is willing to make such a sacrifice for you and his child. It's hard but in the big scheme of things you will be better for it in the long run. This is just a temporary time. Make sure and thank him for his sacrifice. That is love.
2006-08-19 05:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by glitterprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he really need to do all that overtime? if so he is probably just as depressed as you are. start leaving him notes around the house to cheer him up when he gets up or comes in. arrange something like a meal out or go visit somethin that way
you have somethin to look forward to.
2006-08-19 05:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by karen w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋