I have been with my husband for 6 yrs and marriedfor 2. I have always had trouble with his mother and so has anyone that dates his sister. His mother is a control freak. She uses him and his sister for money, she is a lazy bar fly. I think she trys to break us up because I have gotten in the way of him supporting her like he did before we were married. When he talks to her he becomes another person, mean and angry, calls me psycho and other names. We have split many times because of her. This year they got into a spat and didn't talk for 5 months. It was the best 5 months we ever had. He was nice, never called me names either. Now they started talking again and he has become mean, tells me he isn't happy with me and calls me psycho, out of the blue, unprovoked just out of the blue. We have a 3 yr old daughter together. I don't know what to do. He is just a jeckyl and hyde when he talks to her. Please help.
2006-08-19 04:59:10 · 12 answers · asked by calligrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As much as I hate to say this being a mom, he needs to stay away from her! She on the other hand sounds like she needs some serious counseling!! She sounds horribly unhappy and wants everyone in her path to be the same!!! My son and I are really close, but you know what?? I neither control or try to control him, he's 31 and has always made up his own mind. She needs to stay out of your life, that's why he is the way he is. He probably has to hear her b***h and complain how unhappy she is. Then he takes it out on you. Go seek counseling especially because you have a child and if you love him. She is the root of your problems.
2006-08-19 05:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by bsnana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she enables him to act like an immature jerk.. because well thats what she's taught her son to act like, that she is queen bee, and anyone else is nothing but dirt under his feet, unfortunately that means u too.. She is one of these women that want her kids to cater to her because she cant handle the fact that children grow up and leave and live their own lives.. and shes well lonely.. and the only way she can seem to fufill the lonliness in her is to have control of her kids, it makes her EGO grow to know she is Queen bee unfortunately ur husband needs to grow up and realize that the moment he said i do to u, his responsibilities to his mother left and u became queen bee, even in the bible it states that U are to put ur spouse before anyone else even children.. I understand that he loves his mother, but if its to the point of driving a huge wedge in his marriage then he's suppose to protect his marriage at all costs and that means from his mother as well if she cant have a positive impact on your marriage..
2006-08-19 12:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change his behavior or his mother's behavior so that leaves you to change your own behavior. I would recommend that ou go to a counselor for some help. But, I suspect that you will not do that so.........you need to make changes on yuor own, leave the jerk or stop whining and complaining about how miserable your life is. I see that you do not have personal boundaries and allow all of this dysfunctional behavior to control your life. It is up to you, sweetie.....someone has to change and it may as well be you!
2006-08-19 12:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a mummy's baby.
Mentally not matured.
He is incapable of thinking.
Unless you drag him from his mother's nest and make your own home, he may not change.
Till he listens to his mother for each and everything, nobody can leave a sigh of relief.
Try to drag him.
I have seen such possessive mothers, who spoiled the family life of their sons.
If you cannot drag him, leave him for the better, if you can maintain your self and the child and if you are financially independent. Otherwise, you have to continue in that hell with all miseries.
2006-08-19 12:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the man some mental help! He's projecting his anger from his mother onto you and you're taking it!!! DO NOT PUT UP WITH THIS SH*T.......when he does this, leave or walk away. He can talk to the refrigerator if he has to belittle something. He has serious issues and needs professional help.
2006-08-19 12:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, plain and simple he is a mommy boy. That is why when he and his mommy aren't talking he has only one woman and that is you, but as soon as he comes back into the picture he will treat you second best. It doesn't get better and waiting for her to die is a waste of time. You will continue to be treated like this as long as she has her way. For some reason some men can't let go of mommy. A shame since they have a wife.
2006-08-19 18:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look I know I am only 15 and u won't take my advice seriously but I have a cousin right now who is 22 and she is in a bad situation sorta like this all I am gonna say is (Please Get Outta There) ...........Like I wish my cousin would he treats her like a dog and she just won't listen.............Please get him help or get outta there for ur safety if he has'nt hit u yet, that does'nt mean he won't..........Think about ur daughter do u really wanna raise her in a situation like that daddy telling mommy off in front of her? Just please take care of ur self and Good luck!
2006-08-19 12:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela Michele 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT. have been through something very similar. Her name isn't Ina, is it? (just kidding). Seriously, she is not going to go away so get her out of your life and find some peace. They are total co-dependents.
2006-08-19 12:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by deedleydee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows
2006-08-19 12:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out now.
2006-08-19 12:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋