2006-08-19 04:56:49 · 53 answers · asked by Kal-Bruce 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In theory, marriage is a wonderful choice. However, in practise, it oftentimes brings heartache and heart break. I am in my 3rd marriage-- I married for love, believing we were 'soul mates'-- what a mistake. I'm no idiot (?), although one might think I am after all of my marriages!! I come from a 'conventional' background and 'marriage' has always been part of the ideal (and expectation!). Fortunately, I don't have any children, so no one else involved to drag through all of my marriage woes, it would not have been fair.
I am very unhappy being married to my partner, although I was perfectly happy for 1-1/2 years with him until we married. Once we got married, he started taking me for granted, being disrespectful, bull-headed, etc. -- the man he was 'pretending' to be was just an act. Once he got me to take my vows, I've discovered that he's actually a very nasty piece of work. I guess what I'm trying to say is-- make sure you REALLY know the person you are considering for marriage inside and out. Since it is impossible to know someone more deeply than they will allow you to know them, DON'T MARRY unless you are prepared for the possible grim realities.
I have learned a lot and grown a lot through my experiences, and I can say without hesitation, unless you are willing to compromise on virtually everything, you probably won't be happy in marriage.
If you are young and you plan to marry someone without any real baggage, I think that's your best bet for success. If you are older and have been through a lot of relationships and so has your prospective husband (or wife) don't bother. I believe you'll find more happiness without marriage, keeping your 'freedom' intact.
2006-08-19 09:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's nice and u will live another life
coz u marriage there is baby will come to this world so if can make that baby happyness in his life go but if u are not perfect father or perfect man know how to live this life stop
but if u love to be free all the time think alot befor u marriage this isn't a silly game it's a new life
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2006-08-19 05:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by BADI BOUNAPART 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a religious ceremony, so as far as i'm concerned, its unnecessary unless its for religious reasons. in what way is living together and being committed to each other actually different from marriage? its a piece of paper, it doesnt guarantee commitment and lifelong happiness, in fact some may say the opposite.
Sadly, its also a huge drain on money these days, money which could be better spent, in my opinion, on a conservatory.
Its dubbed the "bride's day", mainly because she gets to dress up and be fussed over and get presents and a big party. other than that, i dont see the point.
Great question, i'd be interested to see the answers.
2006-08-19 07:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a good word, good meaning and good tradition for all couples who truly love each other, only people who has such a bad baggage from the past will scare of it.*Marriage is like religions,laws, rules, etc because Human's mind is too sensitive, too weak some time, and also it's too volatile and fickle, it's need to have something 'occupy' the mind to stable in a Human's body form...'Why are we listening to music, why we read, why we have such things to do, to act, to think....can you imagine if our human society don't have 'MARRIAGE' at all ...how is human life would be like?.....might not different from 'wild animals/????? :-)
ps, 'Marriage' could be any form, traditonal, doesn't mean just 'register on the paper'....it's mean something to show to hold on to your love.
2006-08-19 05:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by SERENE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage is great!
I have been married for almost a year now and I cannot think of any better way of expressing you love and commitment.
2006-08-19 05:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by Steve C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a crock. Its only as sacred as people involved make it...and people are too stupid to make commitments that big. they think of marriage as the next check mark to be put on a list,or a way to plan a "perfect" wedding. My mom was married too many times and it had the reverse effect on me...I doubt I'll ever marry
2006-08-19 05:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage is a wonderful thing. If you love someone and you know they love you back then it is meant to be. And you just have a gut feeling when you know that person is "the one". Marriage does have ups and downs but mostly its ups.
2006-08-19 05:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by hollywood22008 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe in the ideals of marriage. In practice though, it was a complete nightmare. I'm glad it's over with.
2006-08-19 05:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the best thing that could happen to anyone who falls in love with their best-friend and you know you have found your soul mate. you get to spend more time together to laugh, to cry, and talk. the joy you fill when you are finally married and commit to your vowels is unexplainable. but the best experience you can feel is marriage.
2006-08-19 05:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by sexydiabla592 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you Love the person that much yes....marriage takes two people to make it work...a lot of give and take and compromise
2006-08-19 05:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by Ken and Wendy M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋