My ex-gf manage to contact me after 7 years. But the thing is i am already married and so does her. Its because of her husband had slowly lost interest in her tat she turns on me. But i still love her & the only 1 i really love the most. She knows abt tat and me as married man. She's just lonely and wants my warm present. She wants us to be friends but I am afraid tat our friendship would be more than tat. She's depressed and when i met up with her, I could see the difference. Must I tell her tat we must not meet again?
2006-08-19 04:56:12 · 15 answers · asked by Akin Woodlands 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes you must.
2006-08-19 05:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Otherwise you two may start something that "will grow a tail". If you decide to continue the relationship, there are not the two of you only involved but your partners and your children. Why cause pain to your wife and children? True love is not about about chemistry only, that is a small part of it. True love is selfless aka unselfish. It entails respect and is unconditional. You may feel that you love her truly but does she truly love you or is it because of her distress that she reaches out for the shoulder that she knows will accept her head. If she truly loves you, she will let you alone (unselfish love) for she knows that you have obligations to another. In fact what she needs at the moment is a vacation from relationships, all kinds. It has been proven that people who get involved directly after a heartbreak or so do not have long relationships for the basic foundation is not there yet i.e. self-esteem, good meantal health, clear goals etc. After a heartbreak, it is better to first grieve, get back a sense of your self and then start another relationship. All the stress and happiness you will cause may not be worth it. And if she did not stick with you the first time, what makes you think you will keep her this time?
2006-08-19 12:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tansy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that you can't control your feelings for her, and can't take her only as friends, then i think you shld stop seeing her, before anything happens..
You are happily married now, and you don't want to lose your family and wife just because of you ex right. Who knows if her husband treats her better, she might just dumped you aside, and you will lose everything then. You can't have the best of both worlds.
Only if you believe that she is only a friend to you then u can continue meeting her, and you must tell your wife whnever you are meeting up with her. This shows a trust you have in a relationship with you and your wife.
2006-08-20 02:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by smilepeepz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better, honey. Do you really think with the attraction she feels for you and you feel for her it would stay innocent. How do you feel about your wife, it sounds like you better focus on and choose to love her the most. Because sometimes, believe it or not, love is a choice. There must of been some reason you married her initially.
The ex gf- sometimes we build up dream images of someone in the past, no wife can compete with that, but I am really guessing, she isn't exactly like you remember anyway.
2006-08-19 12:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by sweet smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the matter with you??? You should have never met her in the first place!! Would you want your wife to do that behind your back??? Shame on you!! Tell her in plain English that you do not want to see or hear from her again! If she is lonely and depressed and whatever....that is HER problem to solve.......NOT YOURS!!! Don't go own this road because it will end in heartache!
2006-08-19 12:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even open that door. What if your wife met up with an ex...would you like that? Besides, you have a new life now. You must look forward.
2006-08-19 12:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Smiles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oof. Probably best not to meet here as it could lead to trouble.
2006-08-19 12:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are happily married you should refuse, she will meet someone else to fill the lonley times with.and her family should help with being depressed.
2006-08-19 12:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is lonely? think about your wife, the one who keep u warm everynight, take care of u, the one who belongs to you! dont hurt your wife and break your family.
2006-08-19 12:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by imyhek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u muz b feelin lost now..... dat is y u post ur question her... if u think u realli love ur ex den y in e first place u both broke up?
she's depressed so she met u up....so if she need someone wen she's feelin horny u'll gif it to her too?
wake up ur idea.......... -_-llll think of ur wife..not of urself.... u r old enough to think since u're alreadi married..... must we still tell u wat to do?
2006-08-22 22:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by wonderland83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋