Why would my husband get so angry, when I am just joking about why he?

Question

worked a PART day and stayed home to clean the garage. He mentioned that someone was next door (A FEMALE ANIMAL SITTER) coincidentally someone we were going to hire but I didnt feel confortable about using. And coincidentally was next door watching birds Hmmmm... very peculiar, he said he had nothing to do with her being over there. I JOKED saying "oh no wonder you worked a short day" that did not go over to well, he became very very mad.. if you arent guilty of anything why would you become so angry, when I am innocent about something I just let it roll off my back, but my husband gets very angry. Ok so maybe it isnt always just a joke but if he has nothing to do with her being over there why act so angry????

Answer 1

have you acused him of cheating before? if so that can get very old fast. When i was married i couldn't look at another woman twice with out my ex wife saying "is that your new gf" or "must have done something right she smiled at you awful big" and I never once cheated on my ex wife but i would become very very angry and yell and make a seen after a while so no is it not a sign of foul play
Oh and guess who ended up cheating in our marrage bingo it was her so are you guilty of something?

damn i always seem to be have different opinion from everyone else lol

Answer 2

Okay talking from experience, I have been with the same man for going on six years and have been completly faithful to him and only him. We have a family together.
Now I know how I feel and how mad I get when he constantly makes jokes or comments about me supposedly cheating on him or having another man. And to tell you the truth it gets old.
I know that I am faithful, but how would you feel if your husband constantly made jokes about or comments that you are unfaithful and that you have another man. Questioning what you do in your spare time and so on. I think that you would get mad, and not the kind of mad that goes away. The kind that makes you not want to be next to him.
Me getting mad at him doesn't mean that I have cheated on him or that I have someone on the side, it means that I am tired of hearing those comments about me being with another man when I know that I have been and am faithful.
When the tables are turned, if I was to keep saying that he is cheating then sooner or later He would go do it because he was getting in trouble for something he didn't do then he might as well do it.
I think it also shows insecurity on the persons part that is constantly making those comments, if you think that he has cheated with the animal sitter then maybe there is more to this than meets the eye, and if the two of you can not resolve it then you might as well go your seperate ways.
Being with a person the two of you are suppose to help eachother, lift eachother up and support eachother and so on.
sounds like the two of you need to have a heart to heart.
good luck

Answer 3

Hi:)Men in general for some unusual reason get very defensive when questioned about something they feel might be a treat to the realtionship/marriage. Many women i know have done somewhat similiar things ,only to get hubby infuriated. He could have genuinely taken half the day off to clean the garage, but you must be wondering ,"why not the weekend babe", or he might find this lady attractive ,but a bit scarred to tell you openly. Try letting him know your true feelings about this, that you might be feeling a bit insecure, because you love him, & get jealous, nothing wrong with being open, as it also shows him that the flame is still there, and that you still get jealous over him, you will find that the answer you need will be reveiled.Men ,just like women need reasurance sometimes, & if he a normal human being , just looking cant hurt,as long as he is not dribbling from the mouth.Give him a chance, as his defensive behaviour could be exactly that, know what I mean, see what he has to say after you tell him how you feel.Trust is important in any relationship, but can be tested when someone gets defensive, but remember there might be a miriad of reasons he is, just ask, say how you feel about him, and see how to deal with it then. One step at a time does it,as hard as it must be for you at the moment.Dont forget ,it could be your natural insecurities too, & he might be sensing that, but explain to him WHY.Keeping the lines of communication open & honest are key ingredients to ever lasting friendship & happiness in all relationships,including with our families.Good luck, & I hope you give this a go, cant hurt!.

Answer 4

Funny thing is most people get angry when they are trying to hidesomething work in retail and sell parts for cars the cust that bring something back and act sorry or confused seem to be the most honest as to why the part didn't fit or that they think it is defective. And the ones that have an attitude or get angry or defensive seem to be the one not telling the truth.
best example i can give a guy bought a part i showed it to him and then brought it back a couple hours later broken(he ran it over with his car) yelled at me that i was giveinghim his money back for selling him a defective part. after a few mins of arguing about it he finally told me the truth and he purchased the part( he just couldn'texplain the tire track on the box lol

Answer 5

Some people are insecure about many things and acting guilty is a way of showing it.deep down inside there is some feeling or fantasy of this person that is why he gets so mad when you joke with him.If I were you I would keep this two apart from each other for as long as possible.Next time you decide to make jokes of that nature with him skip the fact that he gets mad just read the expressions that he show,that will tell you much more than words would ever say.

Answer 6

Depends, are u the type to always make him feel like he has to defend his actions even when he's not doing anything wrong? if so that could be why, but if ur not, then he's automatically going on the defensive for a reason.. people that are guilty of even Wanting to do something even if they dont,will tend to get jumpy and hypersensitive about a situation.. but u need to reanalyze urself first and make sure ur not the type that he cant even look up with out you "joking" that it was under another pretense that he looked up.. because if he's sick of being accused of stuff hes not doing.. that could be where the anger is coming from..

Answer 7

I am not sure why he would get totally defensive. I would wait for a little while until he calms down and have a serious heart to heart with him. Maybe she made a pass at him and he felt uncomfortable about it, maybe he feels that you were being jealous for no reason (men never get our "jokes") or maybe he was just having a bad day. The best thing you could do is ask. At least then you will know.
Good luck!

Answer 8

listen, like you said 'maybe it isn't a joke'. he knows you weren't joking, you were insinuating by joking. do you think he is so stupid not to see that?? men and women need to flirt with others to feel like they are still attractive to the opposite sex. women do it too, and so do you. stop wearing make up. you already have a man. you don't need to attract attention anymore, right? you have never sweet talked a guy into getting something for a lower price or free. c'mon. you are a jealous person and suspicious.......but there is a saying that goes: keep your friends close and your enemies closer. invite the girl over for dinner so you both can relate to her and ease your jealousy.

Answer 9

He may be hiding somthing from you........you may not want to believe it but it could happen. He may be cheating on you. Next time ha stays home like that, do a little spying, or you could just trust him and let it go. But I would spy.

Or he might just have a bad temper.

Does he act like this a lot, or was this the first time?

Answer 10

Yea thats somewhat peculiar. I dunno sweets... Just keep an eye out. Men will often tell you in some ways that they are cheating, either by changing the way they act, or simply acting guilty. A woman knows when her man is being different, and if you feel somewhat like something is going on, confront him. See how he reacts. I got an X to confess once that he cheated on me simply by telling him I saw him with a girl... He went off about how it will never happen again.. blah blah blah... I left him asap. I never saw him at all... but I had a gut feeling. Go with your gut... life is too short to waste on losers.