im a 13 yr old girl. Boys my age often act dorky but whos less mature? The girl who dates a boy or man and gets pregnant or the boy of the same age who rides his skateboard down a fast hill without a helmet. How about my dad who sometimes acts dorky and childish in front of his family but is a professional police detective? How about the elderly person who falls victim to a scam and loses all their money? How about my beloved boy Jamie (no hes not my boyfriend but maybe someday) who is kind and gentle with all but has risked his personal safety to help people in need in his park he goes to almost every afternoon to exercise and is very strong and handsome too. Jamie stopped an armed robber in his park, picks up litter, helps anyone who asks, helps less capable boys on the equiptment, even one who used to tease him, helps elderly people, but is often called immature. The police spoke to his mom once because he was risking his safety by stopping criminals and leave that to them.
2006-08-19 04:26:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have pretty much hit the nail on the head. Maturity is judged by one's thought process.
They say Jamie is immature because he is not stopping to think of what the consequences of his actions could be. That is not to say that someone older and wiser would not have acted the same as Jamie did in the heat of the moment... but he is young and could have been killed. This would have broken the hearts of all the people who love him.
Being mature does not mean that we have to become stuffed shirts either. Sometimes acting dorky and childish is a way of releasing tension. I definitely prefer a man who has a sense of humor and is unafraid to poke fun at himself. It shows a certain security in himself. Your dad works in a very, very stressful and dangerous job. And you may never know how many times he has put his life on the line.... so please do not think less of him if he feels he can let go in front of his family. When you get older, some of the dorky things he does now will all be happy memories.
Getting pregnant does not denote maturity. Dating an older guy does not make you mature. What makes you mature is how you handle responsibility. Do you have to be told every day to do your chores? Do you say things to hurt someone because you are not getting your way in something? Do you just jump in and offer to help without being asked? Do you understand that your school work is the equivalent of "your job", and how you handle it now is going to play a big part in how you handle your adult job when you grow up? The answers to this will determine your maturity level.
Jamie sounds like a wonderful young man... but he needs to be careful. Had he been killed, his family and you would have been heartbroken.
2006-08-19 04:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maturity is a concept that can be difficult to understand completely, but it comes down to acting responsibly and thinking coolly, not taking rash decisions. Your father may sometimes be childish, but only because he's with his family, I doubt he does the same things at work, and to be honest, your friend Jamie shouldn't risk his life like that, it isn't his job to stop criminals, he could have gotten himself killed, and he has his whole live ahead of him. Throwing your life away like that isn't a smart thing to do.
2006-08-19 11:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by elessar_tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ones level of maturity is an issue with one, then how one acts will be of consequence as well. Maturity is not like water rising, where all facets of ones life mature at the same time. There are some areas of one that may nevert "mature" as judged by others.
I'm sure you have noticed that some of your peers are like little old people in their behavior and attitudes, while others are like what little brothers and sisters would be expected to act like. The range and nature of ones maturity comes from: 1] parent's gross behavior and attitudes... what they allow, disallow, and what they tend to reinforce or criticize in ones behavioral activities. 2] what ones own Fate Karma emphasizes from the psychological programming hidden within ones MIND. 3] The sanscaras or memories of ones past lives that have formed patterns of response to certain events will naturally cause one to respond, often with a maturity not otherwise exhibited.
The only right or wrong relative to ones maturity is what one thinks of ones maturity. If it is OK for you to do what you do, then what deifference does it make whether or not others judge it as mature or not? Internal sense of OKness is the key to what one does, and what one does then is the natural level of maturity one has achieved. To argue with this is to not accept ones self... and this is a problem that needs to be addressed by practicing more acceptance.
2006-08-19 11:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say your boy Jamie is immature but only that he's taking unnecessary risks like stopping criminals. Why don't u advice him to stop acting a hero and just call the police...
2006-08-19 11:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by skr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that you have actually learned from some of your mistakes. It has nothing to do with "dorkyness", which is simply self expression.
2006-08-19 12:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not really sure, but i think it is like when you are mature, you are more serious and care about things, but when you are immature, you don't care and just want to be cool. but i have no idea. try going to www.dictionary.com
2006-08-19 11:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie Pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋