when im around people im shy and distant because i hav A low selfesteem. how do i fix this so i can be noticd?

Question

im a very slef conscious person. i ve been hurt and made fun of so many times i tend to push people away. i dont lik to be round people beause im scared they will not like me. basically i fear rejection. im going to highschool as a frshman and im worried because of me being "different" i know for a fact im gonna be made fun off.

Answer 1

you know what? i'm also like you.. i'm a 3rd year highschool student and i know how you are feeling.. cause even now, i still feel the same way... i fear that others will not like me... i'm always shy..

but now, i realized that it's not really good to be too shy... cause others might think that you don't want to be friends with them..

since you are going to be a freshman, i suggest that you have to learn how to mingle with other people... make new friends! look for someone who has the same interests with you... it's really good to have friends.. they help you gain confidence.. trust me.. i have already experienced it... =)

Answer 2

if you don't care what people say or do. you'll show them it doesn't bother you. I've seen strange and unusual people with the biggest of hearts and great personalities have numerous amount of friends. the other thing you may look forward to is: all the cute and popular people when they grow up become ugly or not happy with life, and the ones that are made fun of become beauty full and rich or success-full. be yourself and stop worrying about what other people think of you because in the end it doesn't really matter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! finish school and work on becoming what ever you want.

Answer 3

just ignore them and believe that they are as shy as you are. they know nothing of high school yet, since they are freshman,too. believe me, i have been there, I thought the "cool" looking kids knew more than I did, they knew where to go, what to do,but after a while i figured they were just as lost as I was. they tend to put people down to make them feel better about themselves .
high school is sweet. dont be afraid, the people that you think that has more friends than you do, actually only has one or two friends that they could count on. i found out becuz they got weaknesses just like you,ALL high school kids talk behind their friends' back. i am not stereotyping, i have witnessed friends against friends, cat fights and so will you.

Answer 4

When people make fun of you for whatever reason, Make fun of yourself too... If people know that it doesnt bother you to get made fun of, that you can easily make fun of yourself, you will seem more likeable than if you let it get to you. I remember this kid in high school who was so lanky looking and weird looking... and other kids would tease him... So he started teasing himself, and people liked him more. He actually had alot of friends by the time we all graduated, it was weird. But it worked!

Answer 5

I heard a quote once that said " What other people think of me is none of my business" Who cares what other people think of you. It's what you think about yourself that matters. If you believe in yourself others will see this and be drawn to you. Be careful not to confuse confidence with arrogance. Confidence will take you to higher places.Arrogance will always let you down.

Answer 6

Take small steps. Try just saying hello to new people. In a few days try to start a short conversation. Each little victory will increase your self-esteem.

Answer 7

The only thing I can say is you have to learn to accept yourself and love yourself in order for others to. Build your self confidence. Explore all the good things about yourself and others will see it as well.

Answer 8

i call it getting really drunk and loosing my bubble and regretting what i did the night before

Answer 9

i s hited on the floor