husband wants 3 way what should I do ?

Question

Will I like it please respond only if you have been there and tryed it .

Can't wait we are going to see what happens .

Answer 1

m/fm or f/m/f? There's a difference. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I never thought in a million years I would share my experience on this subject with anyone except my partner, however I can not sit by and watch another couple go threw this without knowing what could happen.
I was single at the time when a couple that I was friends with asked if I would join them for a three way, the sad and funny thing that happened after just well shouldn't happen.
You need to be in a real comfortable spot with the one you are with. During the three way the husband spent more time with me, and after his woman fell asleep he still wanted to be with me. When ever he would see me after he wanted to be with me, like having his cake and eating it too. When his woman went away for a lets say vacation : He showed up at my work when the place of buis, was closing for the night and wanted well it doesn't take too many thoughts.
I spent a lot of time turning him down and avoiding the couple, I felt bad for his woman because she didn't know he was chasing me and I didn't want to get in the middle of their relationship.
What started to be a mutual thing between me and two other people turned ugly, I would never do it again, and now that I am in a serious relationship I would never put my relationship on the line like that.
good luck
My other half always says its the mans job to ask, but it is the womans job to say no . lol kind of funny. Guys will try to get away with things and will always do this.

Just keep in mind there are other ways of spicing up the bedroom with your husband and it doesn't have to include a threesome.
To me after what I went threw, I think that a three some is just a way for cheating but with consent from your partner. If you don't like the thought of your man with another woman then why would you be in the same room with your husband while he is doing things to another woman.
good luck

Answer 3

My wife and I did a few three ways, you can e-mail me if you want me to clarify anything. I have three points of practical advice:

1) Talk about it many times. Say what you're actually feeling when you talk about it, not what he wants you to hear, and don't do it unless you've both said yes more than twice as many times as either of you has said no.

2) If it's going to be another guy, then he gets to pick the other guy. If it's going to be another girl, you get to pick the other girl. There's too much room for problems if you're out there scoping out guys to bring home or he's out there scoping out girls. Listen to eachother's input, of course, so that you can all have a good time. (If he absolutely wants a red-head, don't bring home a brunette to spite him... it would be better to say no than to use it to hurt eachother.)

3) Set the ground rules before the fun begins. Are you okay with him kissing her on the mouth? Is she okay with it? One of the girls we did it with, I could do anything with her except kiss her on the mouth. Another, my wife didn't want me to go down on her. Set the rules, talk them over, and do so at a time and place where you aren't immediately going to start into the fun.

Other things to be aware of: the set of same sex will prob set the pace: if it's you and another girl, it will prob involve a lot of foreplay, if it's you and another man, you'll prob bounce back and forth between alot. Just relax and enjoy whatever happens.

Answer 4

Tell him its ok as long as it's him, another guy and you. That should stop the conversation really quick.

But seriously though, talk to him. If you are not comfortable doing it, then don't do it. That could cause a lot of problems in your relationship. Tell him that sex between married couple is a sacred thing and he shouldn't cheapen it by trying to bring in someone else. Communication here is the key. If he loves you and wants to keep your marriage going smooth, he should respect your decision.

Answer 5

I would think it means he would like to share you. Or likes to watch the goings on.
As far as love and respect, it depends on the both of you, if that what you are into...

If so, then no it doesn't mean he doesn't love or respect you. If you are not into "swinging", then you need to sit down and talk to him about your feelings.

You will then know if he loves and respects you by listening and his decision to carry on or let it go...

It's healthy to fantasize!

If your initial discussion reveals that you both are interested in swinging, you MUST develop a set of rules in order to be successful.

Rules allow each of you to understand each other's comfort levels, interests and "sore spots", and without a good set of rules, you will almost definitely suffer jealousy, and anger, and being uncomfortable.

It's a very big step in fantasizing and then making it become a reality.
The fantasies can be just as good!!!

And yes, I have done it .......and it was a great turn on for both of us. (another woman) And it was woman to woman play...he watched. (One of the rules) was he could tell us what to do, how to do, take pictures....ect. but no sexual intercourse except with me. You do what you are comfortable with. Start slow and work your way into more things.

Answer 6

I heave had two with my husband. The one ith the other girl did not work out so well, I do not like girls, end of story. He repaid me for that with another guy, we both loved that. Maybe you can get your man to bring you another guy first as a tiket to another girl LOL

If your relationship is good and you both want it than it should be OK. We have a rule, either of us can stop it at any time for any reason with no explanation.

Answer 7

I had a 3-way with my husband and a male co-worker, I enjoyed it very much and would do it agian if the right circumstances arose. However, if you don't feel comfortable with it or If you think you (or he) will harbor jealous feelings than my suggestion is don't do it.

Answer 8

i have not tried this but i want to try this with a another women and my husband more than anything and if you like the thought of being with a women then you will like having a three way

Answer 9

If you arent into the idea, you would never be able to enjoy the 3 some as you should. Dont make it all about him, play up on your inner fantasies.

Answer 10

Run. I have not personally tried this, but I have a “married couple” set of friends that have tried it. I led to major problems.

Answer 11

Its not what other think; its "How you feel" about it. Its ether you do or you don't! If you don't; then tell him that you don't want to share his love/sex with someone else; that will take away your part of your love just for his pleasure and just give you their diseases.