What is it with guys who are feminine or seem gay be seen as such? What is it in them that make them look gay?

Question

I really want to know. I'm interested at what particular actions do they do, or is it in the arragement of their facial aspect or anything? As of now, I still don't know what particular thing about these guys make them look gay. (no offense to gay people)

Answer 1

Slim
sensitive
interested in the arts,
high voice
use their arms and hands a lot
limp wrists

Answer 2

Preconceived concepts of what "masculinity" entails, colors ones perception of whether a man appears effeminate.

The same problem women have with the "Barbie" concept of the perfect woman.

A male who is not a jock, or a construction work, or who is sensitive, or artistic, run the risk of being perceived as effeminate.
This is assinine.

I know homosexuals that you would never presume were even gay. It is simply their sexual preference. Then of course there are the "flamers", who are the ones that make the most noise, and develope the "visual personae" that most people think of. They over exagerate the feminine characters making their lifestyle decision rather obvious to the world.

I know straight people that until I got to know them better, I did wonder if they might not be homosexual. Just little things about their actions that made me wonder.

But, we all have male and female genes in our bodies. There is no control over which will be dominant. I hope that we remain aware that we should not judge a book by it's cover. If you like or dislike a person, let it be because of who that person is and not what he wears, or his religion, or sexual preference, or whether they are rich, or "smart" or attractive. No matter 'in what way' our own individual personalities may emerge, let's always respect other peoples right to live their life as they choose. And may we always remember to not try to force our own preconceived ideas of "how people should be' on others. It is the great conceit of man that we presume our own ways are the only right ways.

Answer 3

Everyone today seems to think that a guy who might dress nice and have a taste in fashion is gay by their clothes. A guy that might talk a little feminine is marked gay off the top because it is assumed that a women is the only one supposed to sound that way. Or a guy that walks a little different like with a bounce or sway, he is marked gay because he might just have better posture than other men. Nothing against gay people, but since there are so many different same sex couples in today's society it seems easier labeled by others. I think you shouldn't judge people because a guy I know is very feminine but he is 100% man at heart.

Answer 4

First of all, you're raising issues of social gender conditioning. Anyone who doesn't adhere to what our society has arbitrarily designated as "male" or "masculine" comes off as "different". Since heterosexuality is a major part of the societal gender role, they are both seen as the same deviance. I think your question is going to have a different answer depending on the individual. For some people it's speech, others it's gate, others exaggerated hand gestures, still others a much deeper matter of personality.

And, just to clarify, not all "effeminate" men are gay (though I'll say only anecdotally: possibly most are), and DEFINITELY not all gay people are effeminate (most are NOT). (/public service announcement)

Answer 5

I was asking a related question about that. Here's my problem, I tend to attract one. But at the same time I'm attracted to women too. For me, I coulndn't tell until, one approach me. You really can't tell unless people are openly gay. This is not all about me. But that's the truth. People whether straight, gay, or metrosexual even myself tend to stereotyped others by the way they look.
Another good answer is this, some gay guys are really, really obvious. I do not have any gay friend. I do not have anything against them as long as they leave me alone.

Answer 6

This isn't an answer, it's a question: what makes gays so interesting to you? It would be a more interesting question to ask about feminine characteristics or masculine characteristics, if it wasn't about gays. Many feminine men are totally straight. Many masculine men are gay. Everything is not how it appears. I am just curious as to your fascination with a sexual orientation and how it appears to the world.

Answer 7

Step back from all the religious crap and the social stigmas and everything and look at it from a scientific point of view and it becomes obvious. Guys have testosterone. Gals have estrogen. Those are hormones that effect who you are from your physical development to the very thoughts that go through your head.

Everyone has both of those hormones. It depends on your sex mostly as to which one you have more of. Other factors come in to play as well such as genes, environment, etc.

Answer 8

Looks are often deceiving, and yet, they often tell us quite a bit about a person....if we are looking thorough eyes that are not clouded over by prejudice or ignorance.

There are only a couple reasons for ones appearance, ones natural appearance that is. One is the passing on of biological disposition fom ones parents, and the other is subtle alignment of cellular activity to meet desires from a past birth. Some males were females in their last life, and if given to must attachment to facial or ones looks in that life, chances are that something of that attachment will carry over in this life.

This would present a problem if one did not engage ones role of this life sufficiently. That is, if one is born male in this life, one needs to "be" male in this life while resisting the "memory" of ones past life. The attachments of ones past life are factors if those attachments are so strong as to influence ones biological structuring in this life. Fortunately these instances are rare.

Without an adequate knowledge of karma and reincarnation, many in the fields of mental health and psychology fail to know what to do to help those whose past life attachments are impacting this lfie.

Those elements of difference one experiences get worked out one way or the other for each of us.... eventually, and the key I suppose is to not get too wraped up in what one has to do, but to simply do it. Practicing acceptance of your own little realm while allowing that others must do the same is perhaps the best way to plow through the demands of a world that is often bizarre.

Answer 9

You could realize that gender dysphoria exists and it does not mean the person is gay. Some people are born with a gender dysphoria and some people have learned characteristics that make them appear gender dysphoria.
Ones with born gender dysphoria often want to be the opposite gender from earliest childhood, while if a child learns gender dysphoria the child may choose to be gay, but often does not want to change the gender they was born, or never ever did want to change their gender.
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Answer 10

They normally have quite similar body language. They speak with their hands waving, sit with legs cross, walk with their legs very close and bottom move from left & right. They like to wack people shoulder too. They very gentling.
Some are not gay though they just have more female hormones. These people can appreciate women. Unlike the genuine one.

Answer 11

it has a lot to do with the way they present themselves. The way they stand, or sit that would look more feminine. even the way that they walk could make someone look gay. it does not mean that they really are, some men are more masculine and others are more feminine.