Ok so when I was 12. A boy 2 years older than me raped me, I kept it to myself for a long time.Then I started telling my friends about it, they were all saying tht I should tell the police but I couldnt, because I now live in France(i used to live in England) and everynow and then I go back to England to see my friends.All of my friends over there know the guy who raped me and so if I tell them or tell the police they will all turn against me!
Everytime I go to England and I see him, he asks me if I can have sex with him.
What do I do???????
PLEASE HELP!!!!
2006-08-19 03:30:13 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell someone..if your friends turn on you then honey they are not your true friend and who needs them? A huge plus is you don't live there anymore so even if they turn you don't have to deal with it you don't have to go back..but if he did that to you then chances are he is doing it to others and you could put a stop to it.Stay strong and stand up for yourself.
2006-08-19 03:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents now or the police because this is a serious crime. You could be the person that gets this guy in jail because you don't know how many people he has done this to before you and they are just to scared to tell.If your friends turn against for something as serious as this then they aren't your friends because they should be encouraging you to get help and tell. When you go to England you need to make sure that you don't put yourself in any situation where you have to be around him and put pressure on him to make him think that the police might be looking for him.
2006-08-19 04:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by moneerocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, this kinda question should be directed to a professional as opposed to a site such as this.
You should do whatever you feel you need to do, to get closure on this matter.
You may lose friends over this, but the guy who did it, is still out there to do it to others.
Me personally, if I knew who it was I'd Webb the guy (this means kick seven shades of **** outta him) and I'm not a violent person by nature. In fact "Violence is the last refuge of a uneducated man" - said by a person infinitely wiser than myself.
Yet there are some things in life which sould not go unpunished, and Rape is one of them.
Especially as he has the audacity to ask for sex every time you see him.
I'd go to the police and get the guy locked up. If your friends are really your friends, they will understand.
The only hard part however, is prooving that this happened. Dependent on how long ago it was.
Best thing to do - seek professional advice. Over here in the UK, you can speak to your GP regarding such issues. They're vow of secrecy on such matters, means that they are only able to inform the authorities, with your expressed permission.
Good Luck!
2006-08-19 03:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bongo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, TELL YOUR PARENTS! or another adult you trust. They can get you the help, Police or otherwise you need. If your friends in England turn against you , I'm sorry , but they can't be very good ones if they "side" with the guy that raped you. if you can manage it, do not see this guy again, and most certainly, do not have sex with him! You are so much better than that!
2006-08-19 03:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by amaris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please tell someone you trust immediatley. I was abused as a child and it has effected my life ever since. You must talk about this now, with someone you trust, and get some therapy to work out your feelings and make sure that this does not haunt you for the rest of your life. I wish I had talked to someone, just by asking the question you know that you cannot ignore this and it's time you were true to yourself and don't let this monster ruin your life. xxx
2006-08-20 04:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents and GO TO THE POLICE if they are your friends they will stand behind you. If they turn against you , They were not your friends from the beginning . And warn any girls you know about him. there is also the possibility you were'nt the only one he raped.
Tell your parents as soon as you read this
2006-08-19 03:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell ur mom or dad because if your friends hang around somebody who hurt their friend which is u then obviously they're not ur friends and u don't need them and think about what happened to u and think about what could and possibly has happened to a gurl sweet and innocent that's sad and not fair u gotta do something i'm sure u'll make the right decision. good luck hun. u need anything else than u go ahead and IM me.
2006-08-19 05:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by headbanger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats good that you told somebody. but you should go ahead and tell the police. the person that rape you could do it to somebody else thats you care about. yeah they are your friends, but if they are your true friends they would tell you to go to the police. they would stay by you no matter what. and for that guy tell him to stay away from you. you should get a restraining order against him. but i think you should tell.if you need to talk to me just e-mail me at nakiya3@yahoo.com
2006-08-19 06:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by NAKIYA C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay you definitly need to tell an adult, your friends will not turn against you, they will thank you because now they are safe too. you have to tell someone, especially the police, if he is still bugging you about it. he needs to be sent away. that is not right at all. if you want to talk about anything. i'll listen. i'll try to help. just email me. but you definitly need to tell someone. dont keep it locked inside, thats even worse, then when you see him you might get bad ideas.
2006-08-19 04:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by yourrad_letsmakeout♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what feels right in your heart,but keep in mind he's probably done it or is doing it to other girls.If your friends turn on you,then they are not your friend to begin with.I hope you can talk to someone about this and help you deal with it. Good Luck
2006-08-19 03:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by jul_ari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋