How do you know if you are still in love with your spouse?

Question

Or do you just love them

Answer 1

I love my husband, I just do. There is no single feeling that tells me that, no thing he does that lets me know. I love that we have been together for as long as we have, I love that we have weathered life together and have come out of it together, I love that he comes home to me every day instead of hanging out with friends. After you have been together for a while the love settles into a comfort and knowing that is one of the most awesome things ever. You are not in trouble because you have asked this, you are looking at the big picture and maybe some of that initial excitement and passion has faded and you are wondering if it is gone because you have lost the feelings. But can you look at your spouse and just be content and happy to be sharing your life? Appreciate the small things, enjoy your time together. Don't overthink it. If you want to spend time with them and look forward to things you do together, I'd say you are doing just fine.

Answer 2

You know that you are still in love with your spouse when you still get butterflies when they are near. My husband and I have been together for almost two years and I still feel like were on our first date every time I get around him. I get really clumsy and I can't help but think about him all day. That's love. You know that you are still in love when you put your thoughts and feelings to the side, just to make your spouse happy. Loving someone and being in love are two completely different things. You have to figure out which one applies to you.

Answer 3

Hi I'm cheytelle's husband. Let me try to answer you. My wife and I have been married for 7 years. You know that you are still in love with your spouse when he/she annoys the living hell out of you and infuriates you, but one kind word from her and all is wonderful again and you are on the top of the world. You know you are in love with her because you feel she is the only one for you. You really feel that. I'm not just being corny. You hear all the cliches, but they are cliches sometimes for a reason. When you are truly in love you feel the same as others because the feelings are always the same for a person in love. You know you are in love with your spouse when you tolerate things you never have tolerated before from anyone else. You feel the love for the person in the depths of your soul, right to your core. You imagine life without her and the image you see is of a life that is incomplete. There is a half of you missing. You need this person always, you need this person to live, to love, and to be loved by. You need no one else, or anything else, she's the only one I need.
She's your best friend, your only true friend, the one you can trust implicitly with your life, your thoughts, your vulnerabilities, the only one you can truly show your deepest feelings to. You feel she is by your side always. I hope what I have said can help you

Answer 4

Can you envision plans for your future--not for next week, or next month, or next year, but decades from now--when the kids are grown, and your hair has grown grey, and retirement has greeted you both? Will you enjoy your spouse's company and will you live out your lives together when life's chaos stops getting in the way? Or have the kids and the schedules, the paychecks and the in-laws become the only things you have in common? Convenience and routine are not the same as love.

Answer 5

When two first get together romantically, there's a high that you experience for a while. It doesn't last. It doesn't last for any couple after a certain amount of time, at least not to the same degree. Hopefully, what's left is a strong friendship with love and caring for one another.

If you define love as that temporary high, then sure it's harder to stay in love. If you define it as a long-term, loving committment, then it's a lot easier to be in love for the long-term.

Answer 6

Wow allot of great answers... Guess ill put my two cents in.. Have been with my lady for over two years.. We have been living togther since Jan... Through all the stress and turmoil surrounding us for me to stick by her. Stay trust worthy when there were times I could have taken the easy way out told me something. Once we were togther we had allot of learning to do. There were times I had doubts of trust and faithfulness and I hung in there. Knowing she was worth it. Shes my best friend. I still hunger to see that smile. Feel those arms around me. Just the light touch of her hand across my back. When I have those doubts and at times she hasn't made it easy I think about how empty life would be without her. Sorry I can go on and on. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

Love varies at times and you may not feel that deep sense of love all the time. People become settled and might not work as hard as what they did in the begining. If you get along great and everything is find then you should focus on finding that spark that made you both catch each others attention in the begining.

Answer 8

My grandmother once told me to marry for money, and that love would come later.
I personally believe that people fall in and out of love threw out their lives, and when you are married or with someone its more like a different stage of love, its not the butterflies in the stomach at times ( I believe those come and go ) but its a secure love in which two people are with eachother and love one another for who they are not what they will become or what they can change into.
Keep in mind that in my relationship we have our ups and downs, but no matter how mad I am at a certain point I still love my man, I may not be happy with the situation or what he does or says but I still love him.
To have those moments that you look upon your partner with the Still in love with them, well I would say takes two people spending time together and having the one on one time like going out, romantic nights, conversations that last till the sun comes up where two people really reconnect with one another.

Answer 9

I still know I am totally in love with my husband and pray I always will be, do you think about your partner first thing when you wake up, last thing before you go to sleep, do you get butterflies thinking about going home to her, does her smile still light up even your darkest moments, are you in love with her as well as loving her, if you have the answer yes to these questions no worries, if you have no answer yes to any of these questions then time to sit and talk and hopefully sort things out, good luck.

Answer 10

there are different stages of love in the beginning it is lust it hurts if you don't seem them for ages. Then it comes to contentment but you still have that lust thing going. Then hopfully you get to the stage where you love them and you happy just being with them without having to speak to each other with or without the physical side (Boring) you tolerate them being there but you miss them if they are not there. some people may disagree i might when i get older and middle age but at the moment i still agree with my answer.