me and my husband been married 5years now. no children
no sex for the past 6 months.Does anyone think a 3 day vacation will help this marriage?
2006-08-19 02:44:21 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Babe, something is definately wrong, but talk to him about it and find the reason why he doesn't want sex. talk first, and then if you don't get a satisfactory answer, come see me
2006-08-19 04:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by lightning14 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What?? No sex for 6 months. There are several things wrong with that 1) He's gay, 2) He's gay, or 3) you need to find out who the other woman is whoever he/she may be. Vacations aren't actually a good idea for a troubled marriage they only distract from the problem and can even make it worse. You need to talk to him and find out whats going on. He could be suffering from depression or have a physical problem. A check up by a doctor would be a good idea as they can help guide you better. Marriage counseling is also a good idea. I highly don't recommend go out side the marriage for your sexual pleasure. Find out the facts first and then make a decision based on what you know for sure. I hope things improve.
2006-08-19 09:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly won't hurt any. Hopefully you and your man will start communicating more and get things on track. A good idea, in my opinion anyway, is to make dates with each other like you did when single. Go out to the movies or concerts or whatever you used to do. Do this at least monthly, but as you have no kids you can do it as often as you like and/or can afford. Marriage is a lot of work but without communicating honestly with one and other it can become pretty mundane. So go away for your 3 day vacation and have some fun together. Who knows how things might turn out?
2006-08-19 09:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if a 3 day vacation will help. You both have to want to make it work. One cannot do it alone. Sit down and discuss what you 2 feel. Not all marriages work, I know that because I am on my second. The first lasted 2 years, the second has lasted 30 years. Try to fix it and if you can't try again. The main thing is not to give up on marriage. Good luck, try to fix it, you never know what can happen.
2006-08-19 09:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you marry Mr. Right or Mr. Right now?
Did you guys settle?
If you married your "soul-mate" things will get better. Every marriage has it's rough spots. If there is love and respect you shouldn't worry.
I have been married 24 years. I still get excited when he comes home after work - I miss him. I am still very attracted to him and we are happy. Did we have times that life just sort of disconnected us - yes. But we took steps to get back on track...like a mini vacation - GOOD IDEA. Hope it helps!
2006-08-19 09:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband have been married for 5 years and have 1 child He has 2 jobs a paramedic, and a cop. I go to school full time and we still have sex 5-6 times a week.
2006-08-19 11:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My soon-to-be-ex and I vacationed beautifully together. In fact, after five years of marriage and an imminent divorce, we flew to the Bahamas, where we sipped pina coladas and stayed in bed until late afternoon. We returned after deciding we wanted to stay married. Our marriage hobbled along for another five years and now we're about to embark on divorce. Some people can have fun and vacation together beautifully, but it doesn't necessarily mean they can weather the day-to-day marital stuff with as much skill.
2006-08-19 11:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by ophelia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no sex is bad. something is wrong why? is it work a psychical thing with him or u have u lost communication or adventure and got into mundane routine.. seek a marriage counselor 3 days vacation means nothing if u don't know how u got to this point u need a counselor.. or perhaps a physical then mental evaluation for depression on ones part.
2006-08-19 09:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is what the two of you are putting into the marriage. Sounds like you are taking it forgranted. A vacation could do the trick but you can't forget about each other after the vacation.
2006-08-19 11:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive heard that the first 7 years are the hardest.
Its all about how you feel and how your husband feels
really sit down and talk to him. lack of communication is what ruins most marriages.. If you feel a need to try and save the marriage because you REALLY love him, then do whatever it takes to save it.
2006-08-19 10:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by Moe Moe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 day vacation will solve nuthin try a marriage councellor trust me i have been through the ringer and now at 28 i am working on getting to my second marriage the first was good ( i thought) but she was not happy and wouldn't talk to me about it till it was to late try to talkk about the problems if you can see someone about those problems and remember very rarely is it one persons fault takes two to tango
2006-08-19 10:25:37 · answer #11 · answered by JOHNATHAN A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋