should I stay or should I go?

Question

been married 5 years. haven't had sex for over 6 months now.
no children

Answer 1

run away is not the solution for your problem, you better talk to him. maybe both of you needed time to think, unwind.

Answer 2

For 4 and a half years every thing was ok and you had no problem with your marriage right? And now for only 6 months you are thinking to split up?? How about if your wife has a pyhsical or psychological problem and is trying to send you a silent alarm? Ha? Go and talk to her, see what's the problem is. The marriage is not all about sex, it is also about sharing -not only the bed but also the problems. Dont forget you made an oath to each other -so keep it.

Answer 3

Is that truly a reason to give up on your marriage? Granted, sex is a good part of marriage, but it's not all there is. I imagine you married your spouse for some other reason than sex. How about trying marriage counseling or even just talking to your spouse to see what the problem is. Do it in a nice, non-accusing manner or the other person will get defensive. You loved the person enough to marry them, you should love them enough to stay and work on the relationship as long as there has been no infidelity.

Answer 4

So basically u base your marriage vows on whether or not your having sex or not?????? lol.. in that case ur marriage was doomed from day one.. and ur not a real man, cause real men live up to the vows they took and dont just dismiss them when things get hard.. maybe if u put as much energy into saving ur marriage and finding out what the problem is.. and working through it.. as u do coming up with excuses why to leave ur marriage or to have sex with someone else.. ur marriage would actual have a chance of surviving.. maybe ur wife doesnt have sex with u cause ur an imature little boy stuck in a mans body that bases love and marriage on sex.. and as soon as anything gets hard ur always looking for excuses to run away from it.. SAD AND PATHETIC

Answer 5

you are at that stage in your marriage that happens to every marriage between the 5th and 7th year. each partners starts feeling unattractive to you other and starts noticing other people. they also start to notice what other people have and they feel they don't.
depending on your ages and gender a wife could be going three pri menopause which starts to happen in a womans early 30's and males , after a few years of marriage will feel they have lost their appeal to the oppisite sex.
before looking into divorce try to rebuild what the years have taken down. wife you are a female make your husband feel like he is the big strong male in your life ( every man likes the helpless female big protector roll once in a while) if you are a male do somethings for your wife that will make her feel sexy and attractive.
Penny Babson
http://www.impressionsbypenny.com

Answer 6

If you have not had sex in that long. I would talk about it and figure out why. If the partner is not getting sex from you the partner is getting it else where. Time to move on especially if not children are involved.

Answer 7

What is the nature of the problem that he doesn;t want the sex and obviously doesn;t want the kids?

Find out before you take the Big Step.

Personally, I haven't had sex in 15 years.

Answer 8

wow thats a toughy me it happened to me too but after 15 years i suggest you get coucelng unless you dont love your partner anymore divorce is such a bad deal for both . if yo love your spouce get him to go and you might fall in love all over again and its better than ever . its the rough road but a road better traveled by winners you go girl dont give up k!!!!!!

Answer 9

Marriage coulseling.

Answer 10

move on... sounds like the well has dried up...