Me and this girl have been best friends for ages. We have traveled the world to see eachother and always have a great time together. We go to the movies. We do everything together. Her Parents love me. I have made every effort known to hummanity. If we were older I would ask her to marry me!! Let me add that we r both 18. I want to be able to support her before I decide to marry her She has had several crushes and the occasional bf but none last. I love her more than anything in the world but she doesn't seem to notice. She says she loves me as a brother but I cant live with that. When I'm with her there is nothing more wonderful. I rather endure anythng then have her suffer 4 1 sc. Im tired of being the friend. I make her laugh, smile, cry etc... but she never lets me in her heart. This girl is the joy of my life but to her i am only a "friend". I've tried telling her but to no avail. Am i selfish to want more? What can i do? Am i being used? Any advice would help. Thx:)
2006-08-19 00:31:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a hard situatuion to be in. All I can do is give you a lil bit of advice>>>>>>If she hasn't shown anyinterest in you so far...then the next move needs to be up to her. I know it's enough to drive you nuts! But let me tell you this>>>Ppl want what they can't have. If she sees you back off, she might come to realize that she feels more for you than what she thought. It would be even better on your part if you would go out with other girls. If she sees you only hangin' with her...then she's not gonna be in any hurry to pick you up, cause she'll believe you're already hers anyway. Haven't you ever heard of the saying???>>>"I don't want him, but you can't have him either..." It's just another game women play...whether you want to believe it or not.
2006-08-19 00:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are we so preoccupied with ourselves that we forget abt the people ard us? The fact that we are, is making us live very individualistically. We even forget to ask our closest friends a simply :"How's ur day been." Well even if we do the natural response would be a "It's ok." We have simply overlook the fact that we can count on each other that's why we are close friends ain't it?
Can i actually name a person other than my family members who wld be there for me in time of distress? The sad fact is: No. I can already imagine wat they wld say if i call them: "It's too late.", "I dun tink i can go out today", "I've got sch tmr" or "Do u have someone else to call". We are too busy with our own lives that we fail to connect, even as friends, emotionally. I'm not saying we have to be there for each other every single moment of our lives or talk on the phone every nite but the lest we should be doing is to enjoy a certain level understanding.
I know i'm not the only one in the world who feels this way. It's just that i've been doing alot of thinking and had to get this off my bloody chest.
2006-08-19 07:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can not make someone love us, GOD doesn't even control free will. Think about it, would you want someone that doesn't love you as passionately as you love them, don't you deserve that kind of love? Let your friend go graciously and if things are meant to be she will come back, if not then you have lost nothing!
2006-08-19 07:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok look most of tha time when ppl r close like that thn ppl want 2 b more that just a friend like hakeem and moesha off of moesha. tell her how u feel. no if ands or buts. u r not selfish u just care about her. tell her ur feelingz most likely she feels tha same about u.
2006-08-19 08:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Copy Cat Grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋