My bf and I have been together over a yr and live together for the better part of it. We both want children but I would like them now and he seems to want to wait another year ot two but says he wants to be a young father, How can I gently let him know that I'm ready for kids now. We both have good paying jobs and are very responsible.
2006-08-18 23:35:36 · 9 answers · asked by Nicky 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
discuss it with him and if he is not ready then try and reach a compromise. No one knows how long it will take to get pregnant but at the same time don't try and get pregnant deliberately if right now he is adamant he is not yet ready
2006-08-18 23:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by felicitym2000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why dont you both get married first, or plan a wedding for startes. If you really love him, you will wait together with him. Its not that easy in having a baby, give him some time, and 1st like i said get married. There is alot in starting a family, you can just decide in one day, that you want a baby. There is alot to think of. Why dont you discuss with him about the future the both of you. Talk nicely and plan one. Then when everything is all plan out, things will just fall into places. And the relationship is only one year, give more time. One year is very fresh. Marriage and planing a family is a big decision, i am sure you both dont want to make mistake. So think hard and make the decision careful. Good luck!
2006-08-19 06:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by Farah_Z 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do don't "trick" him into becoming a father. You might not like the results. If he is not ready to be a father yet, make sure of what the real problem is. If you have already talked about having children together then give him the year or two he wants. If he is still stalling, then you need to move on to someone else.
2006-08-19 06:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by lady01love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with him, have a heart to heart talk about it. I know a lot of people that have had children at a younger age, myself included, and at first we didn't think we were ready since our first child was a surprise, but we managed it very well and you have to mature pretty quick, and manage your money a lot different.
If he doesn't seem ready after your "heart to heart" talk, I wouldn't keep pushing it, because you may push him away even though you guys are doing well as far as income and are living together. He may just up and leave and you'll be all by yourself taking care of a child, and this day and age, it is hard with just one income.
2006-08-19 06:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by roadrunner1977 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest , you must agree with your b/f , it OK , you are mantly ready , but he is more mature and understanding , you must enjoy few more years , properly settled down , ensure you have enough to take care of your rainy days , when you have to sit home at least for one year after the birth of a child . Pl do agree with your b/f.
2006-08-19 06:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to wait he's told you he's not ready yet. Also if he is the one maybe you should get married first. You have to think of the child. Think insurance and stability.
2006-08-19 06:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
wooooa slow down u should b talking about marriage first.. Then kids hello. at all cost at least communicate he is a guy he doesn't assume anything u have to tell him and talk 2 him about it over and over again until it sinks in.
2006-08-19 06:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Happi @ss 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait that year. If he feels pushed into it, he'll only resent you down the line. If he keeps putting it off, then think of something else.
2006-08-19 06:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
trick him. tell him u are on the pill and get pregnant, then surprise him. also show him a movie where a guy regreats not doing more in hs life before dying.
2006-08-19 06:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by mintymoon 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋