After plenty of sex together and plenty of children together, she's had enough childbearing. Can't say I blame her. She offers me only vasectomy or celibacy. I hate the first option, so I'm "shut down," the second option. She refuses to get her tubes tied. I can't stand condoms. How can we solve this hellish Mexican standoff? (Oops - don't mean to offend my brethren from south of the border!)
2006-08-18 23:22:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go for the vasectomy. The pain doesn't last and it is well worth the trouble.
2006-08-18 23:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many children do you want? If you are done, get the vasectomy already. Be a man, take charge of your birth control.
She knows how and it means no sex for you. Tubals are very invasive and after children she's had plenty of time with people messing around in there. If you would choose to be celibate over a vasectomy you really don't want sex anyway.
By the way vasectomy is not a big deal. The ice pack and case of beer is about right. You will want to avoid beer though as it causes trips to the bathroom. Tequila works better. After a couple weeks you get to stroke one into a condom ( no spermacide) and they check for live ones. The sperm DO NOT stay viable for months.
2006-08-19 00:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you've seen your wife in labor, maybe delivering the baby? Having watched her go through that, to bring your children into the world, is it so large a thing for you to undergo a 25 minute procedure? Tubal ligation is highly invasive surgery and the possibility of complications- high. It also increases the chances that, should she ever have ovarian cancer, it won't be picked up early enough for her to survive.
There are non-surgical Vasectomies available. Takes about 25 minutes. You get a sedative, they numb the area, make a small puncture that requires no stitches. Recovery is quicker than the traditional cut. Don't know if you're a beer man, but most of the fellows I know who've done it nurse their way through with an ice pack on their testicals and a case of beer. I'm sure your wife would be more than happy to trot back and forth to the fridge to get the beer for you.
Included a link below for you. Only thing to remember, takes anywhere from 2 - 5 months before the sperm's out of your system (20-25 ejaculations). If you don't like condoms, maybe she'd be willing to help you out in the less traditional way.
2006-08-18 23:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen fool Tubes tied is a major operation. Getting a vasectomy is not. Man up and get the vasectomy. If your such a fool that you think you will have to peregrinate another woman later in life they could set it up so the can reverse the vasectomy. Grow up and do what is the adult thing to do.
Also. Mexican standoff and the you write Oops. You could have deleted it and no one would have never had it read. Instead you rather keep it there so you can offend.
2006-08-19 01:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea of having a Doctor work ANYWHERE near your "happy place" isn't great. BUT, I got my vacectomy back in 75. I must say that it's the ONE great decision I've ever made. It takes the worry out of being close. It took about 10 minutes, and was painless. I had sex that night, and went to work the next morning. Not a big deal. Today, only by using a microscope could you tell the differnce - nothing wiggles in my semen. No condums, no hassles, no worries. FOREVER. Also, she'll be inclined to be "in the mood" more often, cuz she'll respect that YOU took care of what has become a problem,. Do yourself a favor. Do it.
2006-08-19 01:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surgically, vasectomies are infinitely easier than tubal ligations. It's a minor one day in and out procedure for you, it's a full on major surgery for her. Plus, a vasectomy is easier to reverse if you ever make that decision in the future. So either get a vasectomy, learn to tolerate condoms, or never have sex again.
2006-08-18 23:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sex is animal instinct as well as human nature. However, the difference is humans can live without it. We can control it. In you case, you seem to have difficulties not to have it.
Maybe you are sex addiction. Sex, sometimes is up to your mind. Just like someone likes money over everything else, and can't stop working or workaholic.
Advice: concentrate on other things rather than sex. There are ways to prevent pregnancy. (check for women's period time) Doing sex less does not make you feel bad.
Remember, dream marriage doesn't mean sex marriage.. It is a marriage with love and understanding besides sex.
2006-08-19 00:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A vasectomy is much easier to do than a woman getting her tubes tied... get some condoms or deal.
2006-08-18 23:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after what your wife went through for you, to give you your children. I think you are being very inconsiderate not to have the vasectomy. think of the out come here. no more condoms. more pleasure in the BR. now that wasn't so difficult. happy fun for you both. just one more thing no more expensive bills from more children
2006-08-19 01:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he has decided we are done having kids and he is getting a vasectomy, i promised him 1 ******** a week. Plus as he said he's taking one for the team so it don't get any bigger.
Remeber it's a lot safer and less painful for the man to do it
2006-08-18 23:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋