Been dating this guy for about 8 months, and he got jealous about my fishing buddie and auto mech. that helped me when my truck when it broke down one day.He cheated on me with his ex-girl, now co-worker. He then asked me to get rid of fishing buddie, because he was jealous, he stated. But he still had friendships, with two ex-girlfreinds he didn't get rid of. He had to asked aweek and half later;after he asked me. What is really going on??
2006-08-18 23:20:45 · 14 answers · asked by gayle j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's going on here is he's being selfish and controlling. He wants you to get rid of your friends but won't do the same. To top it off, he cheated on you. So, do you still want to stick around with this kind of man who won't even do what he asked you to do? Frankly, I think you can do better.
2006-08-18 23:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to isolate you from other people which will make it easier for him to "control" your life. It's a test he's giving you and if he passes, you lose.
Even should you choose to do what he's asking (demanding), it will not make things better between you. It will eventually (maybe even right away) make things worse. He'll still be jealous and accuse you of the same things as now as well as many different ones.
If you already know he cheated on you AND he is now working with this person, I have a hard time understanding why you'd stay in a relationship with him to begin with, much less wondering what you should do now.
I realize more than you know how "easy" it is for me to
give you this advice since I'm not in your shoes at the moment. I do know that when you love someone the kinds of decisions are not easy ones, but know that you are worth more than him AND you lived your life just fine before he came into it, you should be able to do ok now as well.
My Dad gave me this peice of advice a long time ago and I consider it to be the best advice I've been given: IF SOMEONE IS ACCUSING YOU REPEATEDLY OF A THING YOU ARE NOT DOING, THEY MUST BE DOING IT THEMSELVES.
Good luck
2006-08-19 06:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by unique1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving up friends without a compelling reason is silly. Nobody should ask you to do that. You've been dating 8 months. Where is this heading? Becoming serious? Heading toward marriage? Perhaps he's starting to see you as more than just a girlfriend, so he feels possessive. Or, he just wants to call the shots, and make decisions for you. By the way- A real fishing buddy is a treasure. Great shared fun and memories.
2006-08-19 08:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical, male, weak minded attitude. The best thing anybody can do to a relationship is to give the needed space for everyone grow. This guy sounds like a control freak. Dump him ASAP.
2006-08-19 06:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by Shady McCool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your b/f is the one how has something going on here,it's his conscience doing the questioning . Don't let him get control as to the friends you keep. he is only your b/f now not your hubby and then, still stand your ground. men get jealous and need to get over it. we live on a planet with the opposite sex, that just life.
you will come in contact with other men before you know it.
don't get me wrong here by saying contact, i mean acquittance.
best wishes in finding the answers your searching for and happy fishing!
2006-08-19 09:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, babe.He's a cheating, controlling bastard - more than enough reason to ditch him.Hopefully he hasn't started smacking you around yet.
2006-08-20 07:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by helen g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still with this guy? What will it take for you to wake up and get out?
2006-08-19 06:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by corwinnn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not sincere with you.and did not love you. since he did not want you to hurt him but he did not care if you are hurt or not by still seeing his ex.
2006-08-19 06:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by sankara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a control freak. Dump him.
2006-08-19 06:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
control baby! Get out of it.
2006-08-19 06:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋