Why is it when gay men are molested at 13 or 14, they call it their "first sexual experience"?

Question

.....especially when it's with an older man,
instead of the more accurate terms 'molested' or 'raped'?

Answer 1

I've often wondered that too. It also makes me wonder if that experience "turned" (for lack of a better word) them gay. You might also find, however, that straight guys do that too

Answer 2

Because Rape or molested is sometimes harder to deal with for some people . I have not heard to many people call it thier first sexual experence most ( like myself) just never talk about it. But If I were to look at it like that it was the first time I had a physical sexual experence even though it was a bad one... BTW you dont have to be gay it happens to people from all walks of life.

Answer 3

regrettably, newborn abuse does not marvel me anymore. This source of your sucks. * The gay checklist, revealed with the aid of gay researchers Jay and youthful in 1979, revealed that seventy 3 p.c. of homosexuals surveyed had at a while had intercourse with boys sixteen to 19 years of age or youthful.5 (5. ok. Jay and A. youthful, The gay checklist (ny: Summit Books, 1979), p. 275. ) 18 and 19 12 months olds are criminal and for this reason no longer a topic. As for the sixteen and 17 12 months olds, the survey says "seventy 3 p.c. of homosexuals surveyed had at a while..." consistent with probability that a while became into whilst they have been additionally sixteen and 17 years previous. or consistent with probability ninety 9% of people who stated specific, meant a 18 or 19 12 months previous and purely a million% meant a sixteen or 17 12 months previous. notwithstanding, on the tip of the day, that learn, as you contemporary it, sucks.

Answer 4

This is not true in the majority of cases. However, it does happen and I can assure you, what is said to friends and such when they recount this experience later in life is exactly the way you put it: they usually don't refer to it as molestation but as their first homosexual experience. My guess is that they can remember probably enjoying the experience themselves and so take on (in their minds) partial responsibility for the incident. It could be too that they liked the perpetrator so much that they can't bring themselves to believe what he did was in any way wrong. Believe me, what you said does happen, and to find out about it years and years afterwards is quite shocking and disturbing.

Answer 5

I don't think at 13 or 14 years of age they know that they are molested, more likely they feel pleasure for the first time, yes, coming. You, I and all of us take this sexual crime to lightly and flippant.

Answer 6

For the exact same reason women under the age of consent don't call their first sexual experience rape or molestation.
You are confusing the Law with the thoughts of the victim.

Answer 7

While there is no excuse for an older man taking advantage of a innocent boy who does not posess sufficient maturity to consent to a sexual act, it is just that a sexual act, and experience.

Answer 8

Rape is violation against ones body. Molestation is to take advantage of person usually a minor to have power over that person. The minor is not aware of the actions taken against him/her. This to me is not first sexual experience when it is done against ones will.

Answer 9

Because it is. Rape, molestation, whatever it is still a sexual experience. Man, woman, boy, girl, gay, les, straight, bi, whatEVER! it is still a sexual experience, just a very horrible one.

Answer 10

want it or not, is a sexual experience. but since you claiming things in such terms, name 2 or 3 sources who said that the specific experience you mentioned was their "first sexual experience", in the sense you are trying to imply.

Answer 11

Because i said yes it wasnt forced. A woman molested me when i was 4 so dat was serious.