i don't want to have surgery but i am preoccupied with what i look like. i know it's shallow. but men are so critical and judgemental about what women look like. i have become obsessed. i feel as though i am defective or something just because i am not "perfect". yes i know i should get a life. but does anyone understand?
2006-08-18 22:19:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Here is a answer I have given another person who is fat. Maybe it will help you.
I have seen your many questions in the same category. I think you are a littile nervous with your physiq. We can not make changes in our body beyond a certain limit. But we can change our thinking, make our mind good. Why to worry about looks when our mind is beautiful. Don't run behind the rules of fashion. Make your new fashion. What you wear is a fashion & it is good for you when it is comfortable for you. If you are cofident enough then no clothes will make you look fat. A person looks beautiful when he thinks that he is beautiful. Once you will accept the fact you will not mind the comments of others. I think you must have got your answer.
2006-08-18 22:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by smalleyessharpviews 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best judge to decide about your enticing part or the dreading portion of the body is none but you. Also all other opinions need not be the same and therefore relative. In this case, where does the question of universality of comments crop up? If you think of people maimed or wounded you may feel better about you for not having subjected to such cruelities of nature. A man with no fingers certainly stands elated to a man with no arms! Infirmities and dissimilarities are all in the game and let us not wish one should be born that way. But having been born with these less nicities, let us accept for what we have rather than cry for what we have not!!
2006-08-18 23:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by R.Kesavan. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya well I have a mark on my back which effected me the same way when I was younger. I became totally obsessed and made my parents life hell about it for years. I was scared that guy's wouldnt give me a second glance.
As I got older a realised that it wasnt having an effect on any of my relationships and was even told that the scar was kind of cute.
You not defective none of us are pefect so don't beat yourself up - they will love you for who your are - personality counts more with friends and serious partners.
I promise U have nothing to worry about
2006-08-18 22:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop caring what other people think of you.
As soon as you do that, you'll be happy with yourself.
At 16 I stopped, and at 16 1/2 I found happiness with my body, my small boobs, big hips, stretch marks and all. I'm 21 and still feel the same way! Obviously I have low days, but my driends and boyfriend remind me why I shouldnt!
2006-08-18 22:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by shq_foxyfaerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure I understand I feel the same way about my body. My bum is too big, my belly looks hidious my thighs are wobbelly and my boobs are too small, plus one is bigger than the other. You just have to learn to live with it , you should be happy with how you look and don't worry about what the guys think. If all they can't say anything nice to you they you are better off with out them.
2006-08-22 10:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by megajen2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey grl. it's ok i know what u feel like. at 15 i started to grow . meaning my breast size. i am 16 and i have a 36c breast size, but with my body structure it's looks awful(atleast to me)... but my close friends give me good advice and i learned how to manage. now my body looks totally great... i have nice curves, and it all goes well. but as far as men teasing u forget them..not all men are like that.. someday u will find ur special someone and they will like u for u only... so be proud of who u r,,,, cause every woman is different.. and don't worry try to show off ur good points... i know u definetly have some.... bye
2006-08-22 15:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by yappa yappa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that you suffer from dysmorphia - the irrational feeling that one part of your body is actually not part of your body at all. That is to say the you think that, for example, your left hand may not really be pert of you and want it cutting off.
Personally I can not choose the physical appearance I want to - I can't even dress how I want to because society is very judgemental. I have learnt to replace my self-revulsion with an air of confidence and a facade of normality. You could try this too - just pretend things don't matter to you until it becomes such second nature that they don't anymore.
Most of us are filled with self-loathing due to increasing idolisation of an impossible physical ideal. It is an illness of society which is getting stonger and we are all beginning to bear its symptoms.
2006-08-18 22:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've got a news flash for ya............nobody is PERFECT, and do you know what? That a good thing, coz if we were all perfect then we'd all look the same. How boring would THAT be?
And since no-one can agree on what's perfect anyway, it's pointless worrying about it.
2006-08-18 22:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jenni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone has something they would change, but the bit you don't like is the part of you someone wished they had, i never liked my breasts as they are huge, bigger than all my friends but when i realised that they wanted to be my size i realised that i should be proud of what i have and stop wasting my life worrying about what i could have!
2006-08-18 22:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Lou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went bald at 18 and have always hated it. But wigs and transplants etc. are ridiculous. I've just learned to live with it. No magic solutions, I'm afraid.
2006-08-18 22:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋